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I'm an 18 year old male who is virgin. It takes me very long to cum from porn and masturbation. Usually at least 30 minutes and sometimes much longer if I'm not feeling it. So is this a good sign for a virgin in terms of how he will perform once he fondles an actual pussy?
Everyone is different. Do you have a hard on? Or does it take that long to get hard? If it's hard but you're just a slow cummer that can work to your advantage because lots of men cum too fast and women prefer slower. If you're not hard though then that could be an issue. Porn is not a good way to test yourself. Real sex is never like porn. Real sex involves real people with emotions, issues, likes and dislikes etc etc. It's more complicated. It's not just about sticking it in and cumming. Try masturbating with no porn. Porn will condition you to only like porn. You'll have unrealistic expectations. Then you'll feel disappointed when sex is not like that. Porn usually objectifies and degrades women.
It depends on why it takes so long.
It could be just physical. Most guys take a lot longer to reach orgasm if they've just come half an hour before. If you're a dedicated jerk-off artist and your technique is rough, it's possible that over-stimulation has desensitised your penis. If that's the case, it's unlikely the damage is permanent, and you might look into edging techniques and see if you can restore some of the feeling you've lost.
Jattai makes some valid points about porn. I'd add that the easy availability of all sorts of porn means that guys often escalate, so while you might have found simple PIV sex involving just one guy and one woman incredibly arousing a few years years ago, now you need something really extreme to get you off. That's another sort of desensitisation.
It is true that most guys - particularly young guys - can reach orgasm a helluva lot faster than women, most of whom need something like fifteen minutes of steady stimulation to reach orgasm. So a guy being able to hold off can be nice for a woman. However, it's also a fact that only a minority of women can reach orgasm with only PIV thrusting, and it is entirely possible to go on for too long. A guy humping away for half an hour can be uncomfortable, painful or just plain boring if the woman isn't having orgasms and she just isn't that into the guy.
Sex is not just about having a penis thrusting away in a vagina. These days, guys in your position have easy access to all sorts of accurate information about sexual techniques and how to make a woman feel good. I suggest you spend some time educating yourself, and maybe try reduce your porn usage. Professional porn is light years from reality. Even amateur porn has been edited, and so it doesn't accurately reflect reality either.
First times i had sex I had trouble reaching an orgasm. Ive always consumed a lot of porn tho.
you are jerking off while flacid it seems, didnt think people even bothered to do that
Lots of guys are very goal-orientated when it comes to sex; said goals being getting hard and having an orgasm.
There's a lot to be said for fondling your dick when it's soft. All the same nerve endings are there, and it still feels good, just in a different way. You can learn a lot about your own sexual response by doing this. When my head is in the right place, I can experience something that's very close to an orgasm that goes on for as long as I continue to stimulate myself. There's no explosive release of pressure, just shivery waves of pleasure that keep on coming.
Something else that many guys don't know is that it's entirely possible to have an ejaculatory orgasm when they're soft.