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Is there anything a person can do to change their sexual orientation -- or is someone born “straight” or “gay”? why or why not please comment below!
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You can hide your whole life saying your straight but that dosnt change your feelings. sextuality is becoming worldly accepted now. If your affraid to come out, its ok, but addmit it to yourself and stop hiding from yourself. If your going to from the rest of the world at least dont from yourself.
whatcha gotta do is pray to 8 pound 6 once Baby Jesus and say "dear Lord Baby Jesus, please please help me to be the man you created me to be and desire to put ma man parts inside of a woman's ya-hoo and really really love it. Oh dear Baby Lord, please don't let me find Billy Joe attractive no more. Please don't let me get alls excited when he's lifting hay shirtless and his muscles are all sweaty and glistening in the noon day sunlight, getting me all hot and bothered. I know it's just The Devil putting his hands in my pants tryna get me to imagine things that are against your will. In Baby Jesus name I pray, Amens."
I believe that ALL thought can be changed, not just sexual feelings but ALL ideas and opinions... but you have to want to change those thoughts.
Except sexual orientation is not a thought or idea. If it is then why would people go through so much trouble in their lives trying to cope with coming out to their parents and stuff when they could just be like "nah, I think I'm gonna be straight, it's easier and more convenient." Trust me that there is gay people who want it really badly to change their orientation and can't. Just live with it the best way you can and they way you feel comfortable.
I think sexual orientation is a consequence primarily of nature over all else.
Someone may be more comfortable with sexual exploration if in a more accepting environment, but that would simply be allowing what was already within some time to shine.
Fetishes and paraphilia are usually attributed to nurture, however. This suggests to me that it could be possible for someone to develop a sexual fetish altering their previous sexual orientation, but whether or not the biological inclination would have to exist already I have no idea.
In other words, I don't know. OP, why don't you see if you can do it?
You can't I have tried. Honestly I was married to a girl I got on really well with, my best friend at the time and still it didn't work. You can't go gay to straight or straight to gay.
Think of it like this developing a new sexual attraction to something you didn't have before is virtually impossible. Imagine trying to become attracted to say a kettle. No matter how much you thought about that kettle you wouldn't become attracted to it sexually because the mind doesn't work like that. You can't change core things about you on a whim.
Now you mention it, my kettle does have some nice curves on it. It gets so hot. Has that cute little hole on the top. A perfectly shaped love handle on the side...
Mmm I don't know if I just entered the upside-down world but this is the first time my kettle has turned ME on.
You're not usually born straight, bi, or gay. It's everything around you that change you.
A lot of people think it's possible to choose a sexual preference because alternative sexualities are so prevalent in our culture right now. But, truth is, you cannot choose. A lot of young people grow up experimenting, but in the end, they choose how they were born. And that's what determines it, it's nature, not nurture, to use a cliche.
guess what people are born that way, i could go into a tone of unnecessarily details but thats science for you, when i get to hell(apperently thats where were all goin, im going to get a group of people together and send god skittles, taste the rainbow note and all
I was "born" straight, but now I'm bi. I didn't really have to do anything, I just found multiple women attractive, so I classify myself as bi.
The question depends on whether homosexuality is nature or nurture, but there is no evidence to suggest its just one or the other. I think its both.
However, I don't think it matter how a guy likes guys. What more important is how guys can like little girls and boys. It would be more important to research why and prevent and rehabilitate. Theres no harm in gay, but when actraction turns to children or agaisnt a persons will.....
I think it's probably possible in some cases, but harmful to a person's general well-being and extremely difficult to archive. I don't buy that "born gay" propaganda, that's incorrectly justifying sexual orientation based on the assertion that someone being born with something determines if its morally acceptable.
The reason we have sex is an evolutionary means itself anyways so sexual orientation is something that was passed on so we could have sex and kids, saying its nuture is like saying we had to learn how to like the opposite sex as if it wasn't already imprinted into our genetics. And like some other mutated genes it just goes haywire once in a while or something. People say its wrong because of attitude influenced taboos which often stem from majority norms. but its fine. makes things a lot more fun too!
There are plenty of programs and counselors out there to help you. Hundreds of ex-gays can tell you there is hope to change!
Why would I need help? Its wrong to want to help someone else get better?
He doesnt need to get better. He isnt sick! Its not a disease or illness or condition. Its who he is! Do you need help because your straight? Can anyone turn you gay? No because its not like its something you can change. Those "ex-gays" are not ex, they choose to live a straight live style but they are still gay and attracted to men, i guarantee you that.
I never used to think people were born gay/lesbian until I noticed the whole scientifics. One of my closest friends is gay and he has very feminine mannerisms and a high pitched voice. There's so many other examples of guys like that, too - there's just no way they could have been born 'straight'. That wasn't meant to be offensive, I'm just really awful at explaining things.
I hope in the future that gay people are accepted more, the world still has a long way to go. LGBT <3
born with it. you cannot turn gay though there are stages in life where your sexuality may change or focus or whatever but when thats overr your set for life. Religious nuts who think you can go through some conversion thingy are just a load of dick bags who didnt bother studying biology properly. You can pretend or deny but what is there is there unfortunatly.
You can't change your sexuality. It's there, and will forever bug you.
You can try to make yourself seem straight, or gay, or whatever. But in all's reality, changing it is impossible.
Being gay is not a predecided choice and it is most definatly not in a persons genes (one of the dumbest things ive ever heard). Every single persons sexual preferences are different to some extent, take me for example i only have sex with girls that i judge to be extremely hot and i couldn't care less about their personality but this comes down to it being my CHOICE, i even have got off with guys before during foursomes and hell it made the sex even more exciting, am i bi though, nope.
thats different your talking about choice of who to have sex with, sexuality is attraction, if you found any of the guys hot your bi. it is in your genetics just so you know.
If being gay was in a persons genes then how exactly does this gene get passed from generation to generation.
what, do you think every gay person out their comes out the closet? Some do get married and have kids, its also ony 50% hereditary and for gay men it has something to do with certain chromozones passed from their mother and its patterning. Also whos to say just because both parents have brown eyes that their child have be blue or green eyes? It also can happen by a random gene mutation which comes from out of the blue like any other gene. And lets not forget bisexuals, they do play some part and besides gays only make up around about 10% of the population so of course there arent gonna be lots around anyway. In some cases it has something to do with a chemical imbalance within the womb which is ,unfortunatly for some, unavoidable. They also disected dead bodies of gay men and found that the way the brain was set out was more similar to a females brain and that they were somewhat larger than the average heterosexual brain. Debates about it being nuture are for people who believe in theories before the 1970s when they thought it was a mental illness. It is not.
Why would someone choose to be gay? I'm gay, I'm not saying it's bad coz it's not but, it's hard! Coming out, dealing with narrow minded individuals like yourself. And secondly, molested as a child? That has obsolutely nothing to do with someone's sexuality, that is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. If they came were gay later in life that purely because they chose to come out of the closet then. Please go and educated yourself, it's sad a website like this has to do it for you.