Is there a polite way to tell them to fuck off?

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So my mother god remarried but this was after we are 18. So like she wants us to meet her husband family and respect him as our new dad. He married my mother after we were over 18 and we were not even invited to the wedding. So they want me go with them on thanksgiving and I just pray my job makes me work Thanksgiving.

If I do I can happily say "No I cant go I got work" and its not a lie at all. I keep telling them no already and I wont be a dick to her new husband but he is not my new dad but neither my mother or her husband will respect that.

My Grandmother got remarried after my dad was an adult too and he was never forced to do any of this shit. How do I politely say please fuck off in the clearest most possible way? Honestly they wonder why sometimes I come off as a douche bag when they keep pulling this bullshit.

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I dont know thats a toughy 9
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  • SuMaFTW
    8 years ago

    Say no. They can't force you. Call him by his first name. You're and adult, he's not your dad, and that's the end of this. Respect? Yes, he's your mom's husband. Stepdad? Maybe. Dad? He's not, and he's just being silly. If he wants to be your dad, tell him to buy you a car and put up with your nonsense and pay your bills. If he doesn't want to do that, then he's not your dad and shouldn't pretend to be.

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  • gloryholeflasher
    8 years ago

    I agree with you. He's not your new Dad. At your age he can never even be your Step Dad. You're all grown up. He is only your Mother's new husband. You only owe him the same thing you owe a new person you meet at work or anyplace else, just treat him respectfully, the same way you want people to treat you.

    As the years go by if he treats your mother really good, and he treats you and your siblings with love and respect the day MIGHT come when you feel like calling him Dad, out of respect. But that is totally up to you. It's not something you OWE him or your Mom. I have been on both sides of this fence and I know what I'm talking about.

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  • MeatHookSodomy
    8 years ago

    Beautiful 卐

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  • sexysonofsam
    8 years ago

    Just do not show up!

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  • Charli.m.s_Never_Ending_Period
    8 years ago

    Go to your Dad's house on thanksgiving. Make turkey sandwiches for everybody.

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  • RainbowDischarge
    8 years ago

    Kindly fuck off, please.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Honesty is the best policy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I tried this already but no one is listening. They are saying I have to go to Thanksgiving with his family and I really dont want to. I met his family already and I have no issue with them, but I dont want to be forced into recognizing him as my new dad and this as my new family since they are not. They are not even blood to me. I am blood to my half brothers from another marriage but we have the same dad BY BLOOD. I trying not to be rude or a dick to his family since really I dont want to be cruel to people I dont even really know.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        He isn't any relation to you and neither are his kids, as others have said. Stand up to them and do as you choose to.
        But, just between you and me, I'd give almost ANYTHING for a real, American Thanksgiving meal. It's been years!
        So, I'd go just for the food and not accept him as my dad, anyway.

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