Is someone a true friend, if they don't like the desicions you make?

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I'm in a long distance relationship, and have been for the past 13 months. I'm meeting my partner for the first time in August, and I'm staying with him for 2 months, while we both visit around America. My friend, refuses to accept that I want to do this, keeps telling me that I can't get engaged or married while I'm over there, that I have to be back for her birthday, that I shouldn't live over there with him. Any ideas on what I should do?

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  • danman72
    13 years ago

    She actually sounds like a true friend to me. A true friend doesn't just tell you what you want to hear they tell you there true opinion and it sounds like that is what she is doing. She also sounds worried about what might happen to you and she should be because both you and her don't really know what's going to happen. Also think of it from her perspective, if you do end up getting married that means that she'll be losing a friend and that hurts so to me she sounds more of a true friend to you than you are to her.

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  • earthchild
    13 years ago

    You've never met this guy and now you're going to live with him for two months? Seriously. Have you NEVER heard of people getting into serious trouble in situations like these? You have no idea who this person really is even if you think you do. Listen to your friend, she probably doesn't want to hurt you feelings by saying the things I have and is desperately trying to get you to stay in other ways.

    If, however, you have MET this person IN PERSON before and you know them, I think your friend has a problem...ask her why she feels this way, it may help more than asking us.

    Goodluck!

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  • Kimliscious
    13 years ago

    That's what I've been thinking, I've confronted her a few times about this, but she doesn't quite get it, no matter how up-front I seem /:
    It just makes me not want to continue being close friends with her, while she's been acting like this.

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  • jensapa
    13 years ago

    Doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. Friends are supportive not judgmental.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Her behavior doesn't sound friendly. Sounds selfish.

    A friend will help you move. A good friend will help you move a body.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    There is liking and there is acceptance. Your friend doesn't have to like your decision. She should accept it, though.

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    • dappled
      12 years ago

      I have clicked on the "random" thing about a thousand times and this is the first time I've come across myself in a post. And it has to be on a post where I give less than good advice?

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      • dappled
        12 years ago

        Shut up, dappled. :P

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  • ihaveapenisinmyshoe
    12 years ago

    Your a bitch don't leave her for someone who could be a rapist you selfish cunt

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