Is she still worth fighting for if she likes someone else?

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Ive dated my ex for a year and a half and it's been four months since we broke up. Durning these four months we've been acting like we're together and it's as if we are almost back together. The only thing getting in the way is that she likes another guy. She said the whole situation is complicated and that she has a flirty connection with the guy but she still loves me and wants to be with me. There's nothing else I want more than to have her back. I feel as if I wouldn't have a worry in the world as long as I know I have her. Is it worth trying to win her heart or is it pointless? When we're together, everything is perfect and we're both completely happy. She just has a problem of having to drop one person over the other.

So what should I do?

Leave her and not be friends. 13
Let her go but still be friends. 13
Try to find someone else but still try to win her back. 6
Keep trying to win her back no matter what. 8
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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    I'm sorry, this is a situation that hits very close to me! I can tell you the same thing that everybody else will. Shes not worth your time, you deserve something better, yada yada. Never seems to feel like that when your in the situation does it?

    The best advice I can give, from my experience, is to follow your heart. If she keeps playing games, there will come a point where it's not worth it for you to you to try anymore. At this point it will be very easy to walk away. And if she happens to change her mind between now and then then she will comes back to you and you have the choice.

    I was in a similar situation, and by the time she choose to come back to me I had reached the point where I no longer respected her as a person or wanted her back anymore. I know nobody can say anything to make you feel better, but maybe you can learn something from a random strangers heart break lolz.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Dear God, you poor soul.
    Leave her, please just leave her alone. She is being indecisive and is probably getting some sort of pleasure form the romantic excitement and from having control of you and your feelings.
    Please leave her, girls like this are no good. If she loved you and valued you as much as you think that she does, she'd be with you, not checking other fences to see how much greener their grass is.

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  • janetsauce
    11 years ago

    If she loved you, she wouldn't make you an option. BUT, she might just be unsure about her feelings. Talk to her.

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  • Corleone
    11 years ago

    "Let her go but still be friends"? You do not want to be 'just friends' with her. You want to do dirty stuff to her, and that's not what friends do.

    And as for staying a couple... it's still your decision to make, but I strongly advise against pursuing this girl. In my experience, a situation like this never ends well.

    Who knows? Maybe you'll find someone who's a little more emotionally stable, instead of a girl who rushes into a relationship while being in great doubt.

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  • lovelylauren95
    11 years ago

    I'm in a slightly similar situation, but I'm coming from the other side of the issue. I was dating one of my best guy friends. My ex and I were going out for 4 months when I broke up with him. I broke things off with him because I started having feelings for one of my other guy friends. I knew it would not be fair to still be with him if my feelings were starting to wander. It is extremely confusing trying to decipher these feelings. My ex and I are still close and act quite couple-y and that brings on more confusing feelings.

    My advice is to try and act more like just friends with her, as much as you may not like to. A stronger division between what being in a friendship and a relationship is will help situations like this. It would help her make up her mind on whether she really does not want to be in a relationship with you. It is not fair to you if she wants to be with another guy as well as you. She needs to evaluate and figure out her feelings before you guys try getting back together.

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  • myownopinions
    11 years ago

    Please, if she says she has a "flirty connection" with some other guy, then you're just a fall-back for her whenever things don't work out. Leave her, and if you can later on, you can maybe be friends again.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I would move on, try to find someone else. Noone wants to be #2 :/ Who knows, if you cut all ties, maybe she'll realize you really are the one for her. THAT'S When you give her one last chance. If she just gives up on you and moves onto the other guy, she's not worth it.

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