Is phone sex cheating?

If you have to ask then it is probably cheating. If you feel like you have to hide something you are doing from your lover no matter how mild the activities may be it is probably cheating. You are cheating on your sick husband.

I don't think it's that much of a big deal. It's not physical contact. Is he only planning on having sex if he recovers? Does he not think/wonder how your sexual needs are being met.

Fair enough he's got cancer, but even If I had that I wouldn't not fuck my partner for a 5 whole years and expect them to be physically and emotionally ok with that.

There will be different opinions about what constitutes 'cheating' or whatever. But the only one that matters here is your husband's. If you anticipate he would be hurt by this, then you should stop.

It must difficult for you dealing with his cancer. But you're getting emotional and sexual kicks from the other 'relationship' (this word alone might answer the question). Right/wrong, depends on your own personal morals, but for most people this is wrong.

Maybe talk to him directly about your sex drive and your needs.

It's cheating, as long as husband does not know and/or does not agree it's okay. That said, I don't think it's abnormal to have needs after 5 years of no sex, cancer or no. Not talking to him about it still makes it cheating though.

I think as long as you are seeking some sort of romantic intimacy with someone other than your partner, it is cheating. Forgive me if I cross a line here but all I can think to say is that your husband needs to stop thinking of himself as sick, but I don't know his situation. There's a guy on youtube who has brain cancer, albeit he's very young, and he seems pretty to have a normal sex drive.

Please don't think of this as judgement because I'm not, I can't relate or even begin to understand your circumstance, I just want to help you.

This is honestly terrible. Your husband is fighting a battle for his life. You should be more supportive. Your actions are selfish.

What if it were you who had cancer? How would you feel if your husband were having an affair while you were fighting for your life?

Yes,yes,yes.

Yep.

You aren't going to give him an STD and according to your post, he has no interest in that part of your life, then are you hurting him? If, on the other hand, you think he would be hurt if he knew (and you care?), then perhaps it is not be a very good idea. After all, he didn't choose to get cancer, did he?.