Is normal when someone who likes you....

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Is it normal that when somebody who you've recently met has let on they like you but are nowhere near ready for a relationship but then say they do like you and want to spend time with you and get to know you more, be friends and "see where it goes" at first I thought this was a lame excuse that everybody makes to get away from someone when they don't feel the same way, but since then they've been texting me and wanting to see me often and acting like a couple, if I distance myself from them they go in a mood with me and say that me distancing myself pushes them away if anything. They have just recently broken up with their ex in February which they were with for two and a half years and I don't want to go jumping into a relationship either and I have told them that

What I don't understand is if you aren't ready for a relationship why would you want to act like a couple? then they tell me when someone who is interested in them texts them and that they have alot of people after them. I don't know whether to think their excuse is genuine or if they just aren't interested. I was thinking of just playing it safe and keeping my guard up because right now I feel like everybody will just randomly dissapear out of my life at anytime and I won't hear from them again, I can't help but be paranoid, anyway sorry to go on was just wondering if anybody had any suggestions or advice please? Cheers

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    I would fuck you so much you would have incredible orgasms and we would never part.

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  • wowmemy
    13 years ago

    you are either in a relationship or not. It is that simple. and if you aren't interested in this person, all you have to do is to find a nice and genuine way to tell the person how you feel, and if they are worth your time they will understand.
    oh and about this person telling you about other ppl chasing after them, it's a trick guys sometimes use to try to get girls attracted to them. lol.

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  • beautifulbblue
    14 years ago

    Read the book he's just not that into you. It's a very good book and will help you to understand guys and to learn to respect yourself more when dealing with guys who don't treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Don't settle for less then what you deserve! Be true to yourself always.

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  • Badger91
    14 years ago

    Thanks for the thoughts and comments guys, much appreciated and found it really helpful! :)

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  • bazwell
    14 years ago

    Personally, I'd suggest that anyone who gets involved in whatever they consider to be a serious relationship, should stay alone thereafter without getting into any other relationships for a minimum of 4 months. I actually just made that number up, but you get the idea, right?

    This person is rightly taking things slow, so as not to get into a relationship with you and use the stuff meant for the previous partner to taint their relationship with you. It takes time to get a previous partner out of your system, and to truly move on.

    Her confusion (and a bit of selfishness) does come out in the open, when she expects you to be able to cuddle or to be happy with the situation the way it is. It's a confusing, complicated situation and it might be best if you both were a bit stricter with each other: setting clear boundaries with each other regarding what you are each comfortable with right now, and where you would each like to see things go say two weeks, or two months from now. This is communication. Y'all need to practice some rendition of it.

    best of luck to you!

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  • psychobabble
    14 years ago

    Sounds to me like they're just trying to be sure this new bond isn't a rebound. Breakups hurt and healing takes time.

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  • ering
    14 years ago

    I think you should take the hint that "they" are just keeping "their" options open.

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