Is normal that we only talk once a week...?

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I've been talking to This guy I met online fora month now. We video chat once a week but he doesn't text me or call the rest of the week unless I texted him. Is that normal or should we be talkin more? He says he likes me and feels like we bond well so far. He's even talked about me to some of his family but it's hard to believe him when we only talk once a week. Is that normal in the beginning of long distance ?

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Before I relocated to Texas to be with my current partner he would initially call me once a day, eventually we would speak twice a day. He still calls me during his lunch break practically every day, but I also call him.

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    You're infatuated, and going into crazy clingy mode because of it. Take a deep breath before you lose yourself. Long distance is all about patience, understanding, and trust. Try learning about what he does during the day, how it makes him feel, and empathize. The pace you two are going might be comfortable for him, but if you want to know just ask without sounding unsatisfied, because it's not hurting you to wait.

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    • Lotus-flower22
      7 years ago

      That's understandable. I'm trying to treat it as if we were dating in person. But it's hard not kinda lose it sometimes but I don't want to push him away. How would I ask him without sounding clingy?

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        Just explain what you explained to me. There's nothing wrong with being new to long distance relationships, because it really does take some time to understand and get use to. If you need a little boost, start the conversation with something light and funny, to let him know it's not that serious.

        For example, you two video chat, try playfully reaching out to him through the camera or something. When be ask what you're doing, just laugh a little and say you want to hold his hand, this way you can ease into how you're use to being in physical relationships, and that you're new to this long distance thing, but really want it to make it work with him. This way (if you like this idea, it's completely up to you on how you do this), he won't feel pressured to change his pace, he'll know you like him a lot despite the distance, and can understand how you're feeling to some degree. Just keep the conversation light, don't make any demands, even ask him how he feels about the distance and see his point of view.

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        • Lotus-flower22
          7 years ago

          Thank I really appreciate you taking the time to give me advice!

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