Is my wife being unreasonable

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Both in our 50’s and married for 30 years we had always enjoyed a healthy sex life. About 6 years ago my wife started experiencing a lot of pain during and after sex. Long story short after about 2 years of this getting worse and worse and multiple appointments with doctors, gynaecologists and other specialists it turns out she has developed a severe allergy to sperm. This brought about a massive change to our sex life which and for the past few years has consisted of me pleasuring her orally, with my fingers or using vibrators or a strap-on on her. She receives multiple orgasms from me this way 3 or 4 times a week and is extremely satisfied with our new found sex life. I on the other hand was limited to getting myself off afterwards with no input from her. In the beginning I dealt with this ok, I have always enjoyed pleasuring my wife through other methods as well as intercourse, but over time I started to miss penetrative sex. I then unknown to my wife started an affair with someone from work. Recently her husband found out and told my wife about it. She ended the affair and my wife and I went through a very difficult time because of it. She says she completely understands why I did it and has forgiven me but also says it can’t happen again. I continue to please her sexually but she is worried I will stray again if the chance arises. She is suggesting that I should wear a chastity device when I leave the house and has done some research on this but I think she is being unreasonable.

She is being totally reasonable and I should do as she asks 4
I should not have an affair but the chastity suggestion is unreasonable 14
She is being selfish I should be allowed to have an affair 3
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  • KholatKhult
    2 years ago

    The “my wife requires 7.5 orgasms every 9 hours” and the cockcage people are fuckin weirdos, stop writing these things ya dork ass loser

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    • hauntedbysandwiches
      2 years ago

      It's the same person lol. They have the same exact writing style even change up a little of their fantasy story thinking we won't notice. They're probably a teenager.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      This isn’t about her demanding multiple orgasms. I love my wife very much and enjoy giving her pleasure. I have no wish to change the fact that I bring her to orgasm 2 or 3 times on about 3 or 4 occasions per week. I would give her more if she asked me too. The whole idea of me wearing a chastity device is not some domination thing, she is not insisting on it as such, but she does have trust issues because I had an affair. She says she is open to other ideas that would ensure I remain faithful to her but neither of us has any ideas that would ensure her trust in me. I had an affair because I want sexual relief that she can no longer provide. I get how that broke her trust, but I also don’t know how we resolve that issue either!

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      • GaelicPotato
        2 years ago

        Of course she has trust issues. You cheated.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          2 years ago

          But with good reason. She is not physically able to fulfil me sexually. I can’t have sex with her because of her allergies. I can give her oral she can’t return the favour. I can use my fingers to bring her to orgasm, she can’t give me a hand job. I can enter her with a vibrator, dildo and even occasionally using a strap on and this brings her to orgasm every time, often multiple times. But from all of this sexual activity I never get to cum so I am never fully sexually fulfilled, yet she is fulfilled with orgasms and all her needs met several times a week. How is this fair on me? All I did was fulfil my sexual needs with another woman because my wife can’t.

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          • GaelicPotato
            2 years ago

            No, not with good reason. You betrayed your wife's trust.

            It's irrelevant how much you craved sex or how much she was unable to, you don't violate the trust she put in you when you took your vows.

            If your needs are not met, you discuss options, open relationships included. Not that that works out most of the time, but if you really did love her you wouldn't have done what you did.

            There is no excuse.

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      • KholatKhult
        2 years ago

        No - ((( I ))) LOVE ((( MY ))) WIFE VERY MUCH

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          2 years ago

          Sorry not sure I understand your comment

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  • hauntedbysandwiches
    2 years ago

    Anyone who believes this story is messed up. It's a fantasy fetish troll post..

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  • JustAHuman
    2 years ago

    Couldn't you use a condom with her?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      Unfortunately not, she also has a rubber allergy which she has had her entire life.

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      • 1WeirdGuy
        2 years ago

        Just dont cum in here dude. Its a really simple fix.

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      • bigbudchonger
        2 years ago

        I think you can get condoms made of special material

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          2 years ago

          Yes there are a few out there but unfortunately she has never found one compatible with her allergies. She has several allergies that have plagued her life for ever. She also worries if we were to find one suitable what would happen if it split. Her allergy to my sperm is severe, before we knew what the problem was she actually ended up in hospital on one occasion in excruciating pain with red raw skin around her vagina and struggling to breathe. She is basically not prepared to risk anything like that happening again, which I totally understand. The problem is I keep her completely satisfied sexually, in fact she has even told me sometimes she thinks she is more sexually satisfied these days than she has ever been, but we are not fulfilling my needs.

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          • bigbudchonger
            2 years ago

            Sounds unresonable that you're not getting any when there are potentially products on the market that could help with that.

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  • John671671
    2 years ago

    Dude, I sounds like you are having to adjust to some changes. But, why not keep doing what you’re doing for her and just let her give you blowjobs?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      She can’t because of her allergy

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  • jrbsportz
    2 years ago

    Dude that's some fuck up shit !!! Their's are toys out there that's she can pleasure you with so you don't need to step out ( FIND THEM DUDE AND FUCKING CUM) just saying

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  • fatok
    2 years ago

    You should keep getting her off and she needs to return with blowjobs and anal for you penetration needs

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      Her allergy is not limited to her vagina!

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  • idolomantis
    2 years ago

    I’ll just assume this is real since I’m not completely sure lol. Yes, she’s clearly being unreasonable. Just keep doing your thing for her and ask her if she’ll give you a hand job or something. She can wear gloves I’m sure.

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