Is my son normal?

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For a while now it's like my middle son (age 10) is growing a weird fodness towards pain. For example a few months ago, we were frying potatoes at the kitchen, and as the oil was boiling he asked me what will happen if you throw it to someone. I said what do you think, smartass, he will get scorched. He looked at the frying pan smiling and said with a weird look "that sounds like fun". Also, two month ago we were watching tv just me and him, and he turned to me and asked (totally irrelevantly of the movie) "have you ever broken your ribs?". I said surprised "no, of course not, how did it came to you?" and he replied "i'm just thinking, it must be pretty nice breaking your ribs". I laughted and said i wish it never happens to you but i'm sure if it will you will change your opinion. He said "yeah maybe you're right......but what if it happens to someone else, then it would be pretty nice, wouldn't it?" I just ignored him at the time and told him just watch the movie. And there were and a few other moments here and there but they din't really got my attention.

But the first time i started worrying was almost two week ago. We had gone to the beach with my two other kids, and there was a small wrench at the back seat that they play with in the car. It was left there in the sun all day, and when we got in the car to turn home it was scorching. When he first noticed it he took it and touched it to his older brothers arm. He said "hey, take it out, it burns idiot" He then turned to his younger brother (8 years old) and touching it with it he said how does that feel, and he replied it burns. Then he said "really, lets test that. does it burn the same here?" and started touching it to other areas of his brothers half naked body. At that point i told him "hey stop anoying your brother". He ignored me and started holding it to his brothers stomach, and said "this must feel quit terrible, doesn't it?" at that point his brother started screaming. I yelled "that's enough give that wrench right now!" and as he handed it to me he said with an almost ironic tone "be carefull, it burns". And what distressed me the most is this whole time he was smilling!

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    That kid needs professional help.

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  • CozmoWank
    6 years ago

    Is this the same 10yr old who wants to be a porn star?

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    • ilovemybabies
      6 years ago

      Unfortunatelly yes! He can't be helped can he?

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      • CozmoWank
        6 years ago

        He needs therapy. Sounds like he was at some point in his life the victim of abuse.

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        • ilovemybabies
          6 years ago

          Come on you are not serious right? I'm his mother, wouldn't i know if something so serious had happened to him!? Abused children are sad and they don't express themselves. He's more than expressive, like the only time he doesn't talk is when he sleeps or stuffs his mouth with something, and he jokes all the time (his jokes are rarely funny but that's not the point); it kinda make you want to punch him in the face! I don't know, maybe he's hurt by something i can take that, but come on saying he's "abused", that's totally nuts.

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          • CozmoWank
            6 years ago

            There are many types of abuse. Not all are sexual.
            Sorry to tell you but your kid has issues.

            Talk to his doctor about his behavior and your concerns.
            Be a grown up.

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            • ilovemybabies
              6 years ago

              I don't know what your "be agrown up" coment was supposed to mean. Do you think that i haven't asked the opinion of closer people before asking totally strangers. Most of them said that's he is fine and that i mustn't worry, this is just a fase and so on.
              To be honest at first i thought you're totally crazy for saying that, but then i thought the only thing you know about my son is this text, so it's kinda normal to think that. I mean i only wrote his weirdest moments here, there obviously a million other things he does every day, that are obvious to me but you're unaware of, and i din't wrote because i didn't want to make it 500 pages, that show he isn't half as bad. He's actually much more kindhearted that this text probably made you believe and it's my mistake that i didn't mentioned it up there; i just wanted to highlight the weirdest moments.
              And so you're aware, if any of my sons have any kind of problem i am not affraid to understand and face it! I just don't want to jump to conclusions.....

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    • Kevinevan
      6 years ago

      Thats what i was thinking at first.

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  • Blabla123
    6 years ago

    It sounds sadistic..I would worry..if it continues visit psychologist

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    I would be concerned.

    I'd also keep a close eye on how he treats animals. Brothers can complain and tell parents, animals can't. There's a well-established link between kids who abuse or kill animals and adults who do the same with people.

    It may be only a phase - just another form of experimentation that kids do to learn about the world, but look out for signs of him feeling no empathy.

    If this goes on for long, I'd suggest you consider speaking to a child psychologist.

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    • ilovemybabies
      6 years ago

      We have a dog at home, he seems to love him.

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  • edreams
    6 years ago

    Don't wait for something worse to happen. Make an appointment with a child psychologist and get him the help he is alerting you he needs.

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