Is my sexuality normal?

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I'm a female. For a while I considered myself straight, then bi-sexual, then straight again.. I feel weird about myself because I've only ever had sex with men and gotten off with men. When I masturbate I sometimes look at women and get off to them, and I'm insanely attracted to them physically. I've tried to get "friendly" with women in real life but it's always ended before it progressed into sex, and I guess it kind of screwed me up for being with women. So now I basically can't imagine being in a relationship or having sex with one in REAL life.. But I get off to looking at them or thinking about them? Ugh. And the part that I feel really weird about is that after I get off to women I sometimes get this feeling similar to embarrassment or shame. I don't feel that way after I get off looking at/thinking about/being with men. When I try to talk about this with anyone I know in person I feel intensely embarrassed and kind of shameful, like I'm going to be judged. Also, this isn't related but I started masturbated when I was around 6 or 7. I've talked to friends about this and they all say they didn't start until they were in their teens? So now I'm wondering if that's weird or normal.. or if they're weird and I'm normal.

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  • DumBelle
    9 years ago

    Yes, of course it is normal; sexuality is a basic part of human nature. I felt arousal as early as 6, 7, 8. That is just as early as I can remember sexual feelings for the first time. I've always been sexual, so this doesn't surprise me, now. Not every female (or male) have the same maturity process, sexually. It is very relative to hormone production and levels, so if some of your friends didn't experience it at the exact same age as you, I or anyone else, it doesn't make it abnormal. It is a very basic part of human nature, assisting the process of pro-creation; hence, sexual arousal is never abnormal. It's the most normal thing one experiences.

    As far as your orientation, you may just be a very sexual person, so nudity/sex in general, may arouse you (which has happened a lot in my case) but it doesn't have to dictate your orientation. Since orientation is above just masturbation, it is a preference in "real life" desires and bisexuals have been known to date/have sex with both genders, with no problem or impeding feelings, towards the relationship. If someone has bisexual urges, you can masturbate (and have sex) with both, but tolerance of a romantic/lasting relationship, is different. Not everyone can do that, outside of fantasy.

    You feeling shame is a significant sign that a romantic relationship with another female most likely wouldn't happen or work for very long, because 'shame' after an orgasm, pertains to how you actually feel, outside of a moment of sexual pleasure/indulging in fantasy. If afterwards the, "I came" *close laptop* -- *X-out* of a tab quickly, moment happens (or immediately disregarding the thought right after) it's that you do not prefer whatever that was, outside of taboo/strictly sexual, fantasy.

    You could very well have an orgasm to most of your sexual thoughts of choice, but orientation will be whichever gender you find joy and fulfillment in, regarding intimacy, deriving genuine emotions and intense 'love' for, on all parts of the scale; the romantic and sexual.

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    • My02cents
      9 years ago

      DumBelle, i compliment you on your answer.

      It is really refreshing to read a post like yours. Keep on doing good !!

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  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    sexuality is fluid, do what you like

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  • rockcandy281
    9 years ago

    Weird, you kinda sound like me. Except I don't really get ashamed or embarrassed about it. Women are beautiful but I prefer men as sexual partners and companions.

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  • seakelp
    9 years ago

    Use paragraphs please

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    There's a million of these posts and there all trolls but for once I'm going to take this one seriously.

    My X is Bi (very open about it) she said she is physically attracted to woman but when it comes to sex she only finds it satisfying with men.

    Hope that helps.

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