Is my relationship normal?
Im a stay at home mom with a 1 year old. My husband works from 6-7am, until 5-9 pm on weekdays. He pays all the bills, i do ALL the cooking, cleaning and everything.
He says because i dont work and im home all day, i shouldnt be tired.
Most days i overlook his attitude and his words.. but some days it REALLY picks at me cus i always imagined finding a man to take care of me, not the other way around. Or that i'd atleast get more respect than this. i feel like cinderella..
He does work hard most days, though he never spoke to me enough to actually tell me what exactly he does. All i know is that he makes boats and comes home covered in dust and fiberglass.
But with several other men and women all doin different parts of the boat.. truly how hard can it be? honestly..
Anyway at home, he never does anything. Unless i am too tired to cook or clean and take a break but then suddenly im useless and he shudnt have to do anything himself since i dont work.
Most days i try to keep the house presentable (though my 1 y/o undoes everything i do in less than half the time) for when he comes home. I try to guess when he'll be home to at least have dinner started by the time he walks in.
Somestimes i get a thank you after he's eaten or when the house is very clean.. but somedays he makes too much of a mess and its my fault.
Everyday he comes home, strips outta his clothes and leaves them everywhere. By the door, by the shoes, in the bathroom floor, living room floor, kitchen floor. anywhere. He eats outta bowls and plates and leaves them where ever. mostly just on the counter, sometimes under the couch. doesnt rinse them or anything.
drinks cans of pop and leaves them too. and im supposed to clean up after him. as well as cook, clean all those dishes i just cooked with.. plus the ones he used and never washed filled at the bottom with dry milk and sugar...
And he hardly plays with our daughter. he'll pick her up every now and then and hug her or maybe play with her for literally a minute but then he's too tired and "put her to bed so i can eat in peace, or smoke a cigarette" when i ask him to bath her or put her in bed, its all half hearted. He wont even tuck her in or make she her window curtain is closed. or make sure she has her bed-bear. He just puts her in the crib, throws a blanket over her, gives her a sippy cup and runs outta there. I almost always have to go in after cus she just ccries. and i honestly cant think of a time where he ever bathed her..
Anyway, in our bedroom, he dumped all my baby's old tiny but clean clothes outta the plastic bags and onto the closet carpet where our leaky water tank makes sure that carpet is always wet. So now all those clothes stink and are prolly ruined.
But when i asked him why he did that, he said i was bitching and nagging. like ??
He always complains about everything i cook cus its "just ok".
Sometimes he just plain wont eat. If theres beans or rice, he dont like it. Or he's "tired" of certain foods. But never says what he actually likes to eat.
When he wants to be intimate, suddenly he knows "please" and suddenly he becomes so ssweet and funny (sometimes). Othertimes he just gets in my face with his d__k out and just tells me to "go ahead"
If he's not playin a video game for hours, then he's watching the entire season of a show on netflix. If i want to watch something else, he's all mad and pissy and "i miss being single"
Sometimes i think maybe im losing my mind. Am i really just nagging and being bitchy? But other times i assume all relationships are like this. Righht?
But then i see videos on the facebook where people, celebrities even, who are men playin with their kids and saying "oh, family first.." or "daddy's little girl" but my youngun hasnt even said "da-da" more than once. she doesnt bother him if he's not obviously playin with her. She doesnt follow him around at all, but she's connected to my hip no matter how far away i walk.
Am i just losing my mind? i mean i live in the middle of nowhere, my closest of 2 nieghbors (my mom and a crazy cat lady) are over 500 feet away.. which isnt much.. we live in a tiny, non diverse town.. population like 700 sometthing. The next town over is popu. 2300.. so yea .. tiny towns = silent strange people .. And i haardly ever leave our property.. unless for walmart..
So am i losing my damn mind or [ is my relationship normal ]????!!????