Is my mom normal?

well this is my story (sorry for the bad english). My mom is a 38 years old woman who lives with her husband(my step father) and me.We have been living in New York City for about five years.Apparantly the problem with her is that after we moved to Ny she does not have a life. She does not work because her husband doesnt want her to do so.She never goes out( she doesnt like) unless it is to the suppermarket or go shopping and i have invited her several times to different places but she never wants.She does not have any friend or family here besides him and me.she doesnt listen to music or watch TV (she doesnt like). She doesnt do anything for fun. She doesnt even have sex with her husband and am sure of it because we sleep all together in the same room and i have never seen or hear anything.It seems to me that she does not have any feeling, nothing make her happy but talking to one of her sister in Dr. she does not enjoy anything. nothing give her pleasure and she wants me to be like her. I dont know how can she live like that. Do you guys think this is normal???

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  • bzalts

    i think you havent given us enough background.. How old are you? How are the relaitionships between your mom and her husbend? And between all of you? Can you think of a risson shes not having fun? Generally, it sounds NOT normal, but it seems to me as a problem that can be solved with some counsling and understanding..

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  • squirrelgirl

    Your mom may have a mental health condition called anhedonia. People with anhedonia have trouble having fun and enjoying themselves. You should ask your mom to see a counselor.

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  • no its not normal its almost the same thing with my mom i couldn't live with my moms ex any more because of how he would joke around saying that he put something in my plate of food when i was eating it and he thinks really sick shit is funny and i just couldn't trust him any more plus when i was sleeping on the coach i put my wallet in my shoe i had 3 dollars in my wallet and he just got pay $450.00 the other-day then stole 2 from my 3 that i had and i couldn't believe that he would do that to me but he did and i sure did tell my mom on him

    and plus he fucked my moms only car up i fixed it and helped her sale it to get a new car & i told her you better put a lock on the hood or he will just mess that car up to she said i know and he kept flattening my moms car tires we caught him doing so it was him he will say around me and my real dad yeah I'll get you a car when really deep down in-side he don't want to he don't want my mom to have a ride he don't want her to have a job nether all he wants her to do is stay home and cook him some food & clean his house i always tell him why don't you cook your own food then he just laughs at me & all that he does when he gets off work is bitch like my uncle does every day

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  • Andyailin

    Dominican

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  • Noonesperfect

    ahh where are you from?

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  • Andyailin

    By the way i havent move because. He refuse the idea of me leaving by myself.

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  • Andyailin

    Am 20 for those of you who asked and searioudly i dont think am the reason why they dont get more intimate.. Their relationship Seems to me like a contract where she provides him with food and "everyting a woman issuppose to do" but sex and he is the one paying everything. ( her expences, mines and the house's). My relationship with him is not that good although he treats me like a father but he wants to control every single thing we do. The do not show any affection, they never go out or anything and havent seem them giving each other a simple kiss.

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    • sounds the same here man

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  • Ldizzy1234

    I'm with what randomjelly said. If you're staying in the same room as them, I doubt they're going to have sex. As for her not doing anything, or wanting to do anything, maybe she would rather live a simple life. You said you make a lot of suggestions for her to go to places that you like to go, but maybe instead of making suggestions, you should ask her if she has anything in mind. If she still doesn't want to do anything, you should ask her why she never wants to do anything. The worst could be that she has some kind of depression. Maybe you could recommend her talking with someone.

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

      And, more importantly how old is the OP?

      If the OP isn't a minor perhaps it's time to move out to give the parents some room.

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  • randomjelly

    If my child slept in the same room I doubt I would feel very frisky either. Try the couch.

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

      or get a hotel for the night to give them some alone time

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