Is my mom a toxic person?

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My mom has tried to control me all my life. Whenever she didn't get her way or I didn't want to do what she wanted me to do she would berate me and make me feel like shit. She would always compare me to other kids and make it seem like I didn't do anything right(even though I made good grades and was nice). She would constantly chastize me for my shyness and would berate me for being depressed. This has happened throughout my childhood and I was struggling with it for a long time. But I eventually wanted to try and forgive her and try to have a better relationship with her. But once I got to my senior year of high school and I got a boyfriend and a close friend, it's like shes been plotting my downfall. She tries to find any reason for me to not see them and she even turned my family against me to try and discourage me from seeing them. And it's not like their bad people. My friend makes very good grades and my boyfriend is skipping a grade to be a senior next year. They both have their lives ahead of them. But anyway my mom pressured me into going into the military and now I have to ship out in September. I don't want to go at all but she made me feel like I had no choice and that I had no other options. I feel like at this point she just wants to see me unhappy and unfortunately I let her control my life.

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  • Fenrirr
    7 years ago

    don't go into the military if you don't want to, tell your mum to fuck off. it's not going to do both your mental and physical health no good if you're going into a career you don't like, especially one where it requires rigorous training and mental strain.

    stop letting your mum manipulate you, i have a mother similar to yours and the best thing to do is either try to avoid her the most you can or keep telling her no and make your own decisions. fuck your family if they side with your mum, they can go burn and die since they don't seem to give a shit about you. why should you give a shit about them?

    quit the military, and go find a job or education that you prefer then with the money you earn get an apartment with your friend or boyfriend, that way you don't have to see your cunt of a mother.

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    • AngryinOhio
      7 years ago

      Thank you for the adivce!

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    That really sucks, well are you going to get the GI Bill when you get out? I think you ought to take advantage of the chance to get a free education. Do whatever you can to better yourself so you can get a decent job, and thereby get away from your mom.

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    • AngryinOhio
      7 years ago

      It would best to take advantage of the GI Bill but ive heard so many horror stories of people not being able to use their benefits even if they are a model worker. And I don't know if I really wanna spend 3 years of my life in the military. I would be miserable.

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      • RoseIsabella
        7 years ago

        I dunno, you're the only one who can make these decisions. All I can do is offer moral support. I think a domineering mother can be a very toxic thing, I know as I have one myself.

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