Is my life worth it?

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I know many people have anxiety and it's a problem for them, but it just makes me depressed knowing that i am 19 years old and i can't make friends like normal people my age. I'm not bad looking either in my opinion. I see guys (which i think don't look as good as i do) that have girlfriends and it pisses me off. Whenever someone talks to me i immediately get self-conscious and become nervous. I stutter a lot sometimes and that makes me even more depressed.
Even in class when the professor takes attendance i get nervous when he calls my name because i don't want to say "here" incase i stutter again.
I've failed a number of class presentations because i felt like i would have a panic attack if i stood in front of the class and speak so i never did them.
I was put on a number of anti-depressants in the past and they didn't help. Now my psych has me on anti-anxiety meds which seem to barely take the edge off...i just feel weak and pathetic, i should be maturing and growing up.

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  • jack999
    14 years ago

    ue normal and u just seem shy and if people get to know u they will see that and try not to be so shy and u will get a boyfriend and more friends:)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      Thanks for the advice..im a guy by the way lol

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  • random1random
    11 years ago

    I have a severe case of stuttering and went through what you did at around the same age as you as well. Want my advice? Get into fighting.

    Wether it be Judo, Jiu-Jitsu, Kyokoshinkaikan, Boxing, Muay Thai whatever you're into just enroll in classes and start practicing. It'll build your confidence a lot and will help with your social situations.

    I find that I'm not good with words since I stutter but I'm good with my fist if someone makes fun of me :) good luck!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    its normal dude. but get your self confidence high, it'll surely help. most girls get attracted to someone confident with their self. when you want to start a conversation with someone, always think that you are awesome than him/her. then you'll gain the confidence. good luck!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    About the date thing, it's defs not about what you look like. It's a known fact, that girls will judge a guy on their looks first, but if they're butt ugly, they'll get over it and start judging on their personality.

    And yeah, see a psychologist, and get second opinions. Some psychologists might be able to relate better to you than you think! Good luck (:

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  • loviex102
    13 years ago

    I'd date you.

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  • hotchickie81
    14 years ago

    Sorry to hear that. I can sorta relate, on a lesser scale, I suppose. I hope you can get help - maybe different meds. Also, have you ever tried smoking pot? I know it's illegal, but I've heard it can sometimes help with anxiety. Just a thought. Good luck! :)

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  • jben4president
    14 years ago

    Dude im shy as hell sometimes. I throw up before i do anything on stage and i had a bad stutter till age 12. It can eventually go away. Just find little ways to be outgoing and work your way up.

    I worked my way up to streaking and not being shy has changed my life. Theres no shame in being shy but if you dont want to be then just teach yourself not to be. Streak once it will help

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  • smuffle
    14 years ago

    Wow, don't listen to Grim.

    Friendship is not about quantity, it is about quality, and if you don't have many friends that doesn't make you a bad person. You seem to be getting help, which is good, and it shows that you have a desire to change and that's very positive.

    It might be valuable for you to look into the cause of your stuttering and see if there are any speech therapies or other solutions that could be used to improve it.

    Try talking to your professors about your issues with presentations--if you're too nervous for that, try sending an e-mail. You'd be amazed at what professors will do. It's possible you could even get your doctor to give you a note for the school that might give you access to services for students with learning disabilities (or, in this case, speech difficulties).

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      Thanks, the speech isn't so much the biggest problem. And in my case i wouldn't go as far to say that i have a learning disability but i understand your point. I basically have to learn to deal with my anxiety instead of try to circumvent the issue.

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  • PoisonFlowers
    14 years ago

    Tell your psychologist that the anti-anxiety meds aren't working. Also, ask about CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). It's meant to be very effective for the sort of anxiety which you have described here. Maybe you should look into group sessions for people suffering from anxiety. That way, you can meet others who are going through that same sorts of things.

    Check this place out to read about other peoples' experiences and progress:

    http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/

    You'll see that it isn't as hopeless as you think.

    Your life is most definitely worth it. C'mon, there's still time yet, don't give up.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    first of all it depends on your personality, the better person you are the more people will want to be your friends. and 2 if you wanna check if your ugly or not take a baby(yes im talking about a baby ages 1~2) cuz the never lie if they look at youmaybe sometimes will smile means your good if they look away and do eveything but looking at you mean your ugly. good luck

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    ah dude im really sorry for you i aint just saying that cause my bro is the exact same
    but life is worth living you ave to slowly get your motivation up start with doing a lil crime (i know that sounds bad but it helps) ok well the best way for a crime is to fine a house no one lives in and isnt joined to another house and set it on fire BE SURE NO1 IS IN THERE OR THT IT ISNT JOINED TO ANOTHER HOUSE but it will help

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