Is my hubby bipolar??

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Okay. My hubby seems to have more mood swings than a pregnant women (been there! lol). It's like sometimes he has PMS or something (also know what that's like).

Anyway enough of the jokes. In all seriousness, he is SO moody. I never know what to expect. He can go from a good mood to a bad mood, and vice versa. It's insane.

He'll be all nice and sweet, and then something sets him off. He'll get really mad an violent. He used to just verbally abuse me, but lately it has turned to physical. He's a lot bigger than me too, so he really hurts me.

I never know what to expect. I'm constantly walking on eggshells around him. I try so hard to make (and keep) him happy.

Should he see someone about this? He's got a lot of anger and rage issues. i know he's got family issues and stuff that happened to him in the past.

Anyway I hope it doesn't get worse, but I am very worried. Thanks, everyone.

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    Tell him to lay off the coke.. thatll help.

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  • emilio
    13 years ago

    I'm bipolarl. Under control. and yeah that sounds like bipolarity disorder. And i agree with you guys, its absolutly no excuse to act like that. Okay anyways he can be bipolar allright but he must understand it. The no.1 issue with bipolars is that alot of them will think they dont need their pills and stop taking them. Hope he sticks to it.

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  • Ihave2try
    14 years ago

    Coming from an abusive childhood, please get him help or get out!! I am 33 yrs old and still dealing with my past. You don't realize how fucked up a child can be when they see there mother get put down and beat. I think it scard me more to see my mom and my siblings get abused, more then when it came to me. Please... get help!!!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Sooo sorry to hear that :( Thankfully we have both gotten help, and things are soooooo much better now. It's like day and night. We're happy together once again, and we know what to do when one of us gets upset or whatever. Thanks for your comment though!

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  • dragonlover
    14 years ago

    Drop him now. Dont ever let any guy be over you

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  • ihopeyoudie
    14 years ago

    learn judo.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Don't make his mental illness an excuse to tolerate abuse. You need to plan and act on steps to secure your own safety and well-being first and foremost. Do what you can for him --- that is --- what you can on YOUR way out to somewhere safe.

    If he can prove he is well, of no threat to you and respects you, then consider reconciliation, if you choose.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      Thanks for the advice! Thankfully he's gotten much better over the past few months.

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  • Stupidlookingguy
    14 years ago

    Yeah, take him to a psychiatrist.

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  • simba1
    14 years ago

    Bi-polar or not, this is not an excuse or reason to beat people up. My mother is bi-polar, and used to hold carving knives to our throats, when she had been alright 10 minutes before hand. If he has bi-polar, he should be getting the medication he needs. If he wont take responsibilty for his own health and actions, get rid of him!!! I have not spoken to my mother since I was 18(I am now 35). I have left her to wallow in her own mire. She has no friends, but it is all her own doing. Take care.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      Thanks! Frig, that is so sad :( Sorry to hear about you and your mom. That must have been really scary...

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  • anabolic19
    14 years ago

    he sounds a little like me but i would never hit my girlfriend i generally turn my anger inside to myself or to random people who i get into fights with, i also have issues with my family both my parents are alcoholics and there killing them selfs and i cant seem to stop them and this is where i think alot of my anger comes from like not being able to help or do anything you know? so maybe his stems from a similar thing but he should definatly get help i know i would love to get help but its unavailable to me but he should get it if not for himself for you, and its really good of you to try and help him like this women i know just shut me out of there lifes i never really get a chance to talk about it to anyone lol feels better just writing this comment :)

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  • crazy1331
    14 years ago

    Im bipolar aswell as my boyfriend. It sounds a lot like Bipolar I. He should go to his PCP asap. If he is getting violent with you then things need to change now. There is NO excuse for violence even if he is bipolar. Medicine should help with the anger a lot. It takes around one or two months for the medicine to work fully in your system. If the violence persists after that he may need more counseling or anger management. Please dont put yourself in a situation where you could get hurt. You might need to think of an escape plan if he gets to out of control. (my first husband was abusive) Good luck to ya!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      Thank you so much! I will try to talk to him about it. I have depression & anxiety, along with OCD... but as far as I know, I'm not bipolar. But I really want him to get help cause it worries me. I don't want him hurting me, himself or anyone else. Thanks again for your help.

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      • supra661
        14 years ago

        Hey I just need to mention... Abuse is ABUSE. Verbal abuse is horrible enough! PHYSICAL abuse is even more egregious. You need to seek the support of a good counselor, and also make some plans for yourself... You need to be prepared to leave if your hubby doesn't agree with you and willingly go get some help.... That may be the only way to open his eyes enough for him to recognize his behavior as a problem.

        One thing is for certain, though, if he is allowed to continue unchecked, there is a significant risk of escalating behaviors from him. If he doesn't change, get out while you still can!

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          14 years ago

          Thanks! Yeah I've been preparing... saving a little money and got a few things packed. You just never know. It sucks to think that way, but I need to look out for myself. Thankfully he hasn't been as bad lately.

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