Is my family toxic or i am

I've always been troubled kid, depressed, fatigued, lazy. When I finished my university I couldn't find a job so I got back to living with family. My father is a farmer. I was never meant to be farmer, but hey, I am here, I should do something. I still I'm lazy, but I try to do my best with my fatigue and just being weak in general.
So my father never teached me anything about this work, because "just do it" is not an explanation. I am paranoid guy so I want to be 100% sure of what is the job about and how not to fail it before I start it.
So I quickly transfered from doing nothing at all, to making fair share of work at the farm. Most of work is milking the cows twice a day and sheltering and feeding them.
So I have this thing where I have to sleep 9 hours per day or I'm useless. We milk cows at 5AM and 6PM. As you can easily see I'd either have to go to bed at 8PM or go to bed at 7AM. First makes me miserable because in this farm I have no human contact and people on facebook are there in the evening. Second one lets me help with both milkings but I basically sleep during the day and stay up whole night.
So my father always angrily says how I he is hard working, a hero or something for managing this. I offered to do most of his work for at least a bit of pocket cash, (because I think his work is not that hard) but he always refuses and says I just steal money from his purse and/or can take it whenever I want. I tried it once after (he said go on take money you think you earned). I was taking 25 usd per week and bought myself my first smartphone. Ofc I was motivated and worked much better! But after another "oh you people have everything, just take my money when you need it" he just hidden it so well its basically not possible to take anything. So no money for over 18 months already. And I started to do more and more things (I mean, not in hours but I learned many things he failed to teach me) and I can honestly say I can manage this farm on my own with some guidance. So instead of praising me for basically transforming from pathetic human to good person he says all my work is useless. When he does it its hard work. When he does it he says 2h of my work is not even worth 2 usd. (I am not living in usa, just translating money to you).
So is he an asshole or I am just being lazy because I'm woken up after 4 hours of sleep, criticized for everything I do and not paid at all?
Last but not least, if he paid me I would do enough to not only fund my electricity, rent, food but to save money to get out of there and find a job. I need about 2000 usd to move out so imagine. I'm thinking of stealing money from him and disappearing for good, I dont want to inherit his freaking farm if I have to put up with him.
TL;DR when I want to work hard I'm being criticized and not paid at all so I gravitate towards doing less, but on the same time learn more things and I'm quite able to "overtake" family business.
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