Is my ex's family doing this on purpose?

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(Just a quick notice, I'm letting my older brother use my account for this post.)

My ex girlfriend and I had a baby when we were both 18. We put our money together, and bought ourselves a small house. Too soon after did we break up, as she demanded to have more children.

My daughter is now 2, and is turning 3 in a couple of days. I let my ex keep the house to herself, and I'm back to living with my mum. Our daughter spends most of the time with my ex's mother, while her real mother is out sleeping around. She's pregnant again by some random dude.

That's not what concerns me. What is really irritating me is that whenever I have my daughter at my house, she has VERY high expectations set by her mother's comfortably wealthy family. She'll cry because we don't have a TV in her bedroom, or because we don't have her favourite film.

Now that her birthday is round the corner, I've been told she's going to be taken to a rather expensive kids' play area, go to a water park and go for pizza afterward! I'm really starting to think they're doing this just so that my own daughter won't enjoy visiting me! All we have planned is making her cupcakes and taking her to the cinema.

It really saddens me, she's going to want to stay with her slutty mother who doesn't spend time with her unless she's taking money from me!

Are they doing this on purpose? Or am I just being paranoid?

They're trying to buy her love. 21
You're being paranoid. 5
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  • BlackyHancock
    7 years ago

    I've been through this. The thing is when kids grow up they don't remember who gave them the most stuff - they remember who truly loved them. Nothing else matters.

    Just love her.

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    • casasruby
      7 years ago

      Bullshat. My step daughter is ambitious and only comes to stay with dad when she know she will get a good trip, presents and clothes. She will stay for two months all the while he continues to pay his ex child support, and she only locks herself up in her room and ignores me, until we go out and buy her stuff.

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  • ben_doverowldrive
    7 years ago

    Her old lady who is only 20 years old is a whore and a douche bag bloody cunt.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    Having been a non-custodial parent with an ex who had way more money than I did, I really feel for you. All you can do is be honest with her and tell her you don't have enough money to buy her the stuff she's used to, and find free or cheap fun stuff you can do together. Take her to the park, fly a kite, paint pictures with her, play games and don't try to compete.

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    • Boner_Face
      7 years ago

      It's your own fault for not taking advantage of the system. The system is totally set up to screw over the man financially in situations like this. It's probably why the OP's ex is having another kid with some "random dude". She gets another sucker sending her checks every month for the next 18 years, based on what this new guys salary is, which could be $100K+, who knows?

      She shouldn't be getting any money if her family is "comfortably wealthy".

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  • AnimeNightLight
    7 years ago

    As a kid, my parents went through a custody battle. My dad used to beat my mom and cheat on her but shower me and my sister with gifts. He took us on trips and just constantly spent money.

    We saw him every weekend after their divorce and he just kept spoiling us. Eventually, I found drugs in his drawers, various women on his computer, and even transactions buy hookers. I ignored it and he kept buying me things.

    He bought me everything I wanted.

    All in vain though, since in the end we saw all of the shitty things he has done and we were disappointed and ashamed. You'll win in the end. When the child is old enough to see who her mother really is.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    7 years ago

    They do seem like it, but after all, she's three! There are so many things she will prefer , rather than money. I've dealt with kids all my life and there are so many things they will love you for, not money!
    Play dolls with her. Play doctor. Let her fix your arm 200 times without stop. Bring her to a petting zoo. Watch Frozen together and get super excited. Suggest doing a Frozen concert the two of you. Read a bed time story, or two, or three. Sing songs together. Watch her performing. Get excited with her when a bird flies by (even if it's very silly), etc.

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