Is my ex-boyfriend gay?

I just want to reiterate that I don't agree with any insults made here, whether I saw them or not. I didn't feel like I made that clear in the first comment. I don't think you meant to be offensive in your original post.

I think what may have irritated people is the fact that you made a list of attributes that supposedly point to possibly being gay. Not only does that support gay stereotypes, but to me only one of those points is actually important - what he tells you about his own sexuality. Like I said in my other comment, that's the only thing that matters. He's your friend, so trust what he tells you and don't scrutinize him behind his back with friends. And if he's lying, let him tell you the truth on his terms instead of finding out through detective work - after all, it's his sexuality. Let him deal with it at his own pace.

Maybe if you re-read the comments without including the negative judgments you'd understand that they're actually making good points. Though keep in mind that some of the more hurtful comments could have been posted after me, and there were a couple I only skimmed. I don't think you're a bad person for wondering this, but I think the question itself is immaterial and based on faulty premises. So please don't patronize, because you aren't helping your case.

Bottom line for me: he told you he's straight. There's no real reason to assume he's lying, but if he is then that means he doesn't want you to know and it isn't really your business.

"Is my ex-boyfriend gay?" - That is indeed you calling him gay. Yes, I did make up the hateful part to prove a point.

"Nice. You are doing exactly what you are accusing me of." And "But thanks for the severe judgement." - Was answered, along with the above "hate" comment with, " Don't like it when people judge you? K, stop doing it to him." The point was not to judge people lest ye yourself be judged. Who you are as a person doesn't really matter to me. Suspecting "calling" your ex gay can be construed under many different interpretations. Maybe your spiteful. Maybe your sweet but confused. Maybe your an old guy getting off on trolling. Whatever. You didn't like it when I did it to you, so hopefully the lesson has been learned.

In my experience with gay men, they usually dont want to touch/cuddle or be close to women sexually. I mean, if he really is your friend, and says he isn't gay, dont you think it's a little irritating for people to constantly drill him about being gay? What if all your friends started saying your a lesbian? It's just sad because he probably just wants to be himself , hopefully he won't change himself because of these gay comments.

"everyone else"

That's a bit strong since I know I personally said nothing about your motives. I only talked about your misconceptions on what makes a man gay and talked about the hollywood stereotypes

"coming out" is different than "having sex"

if a man has sex with only men but hasn't yet told his family he's still gay.

however choice does play a part in this.
if a man choses to not have sex with men then should we still call him gay for fitting stereotypes?

A good example I have... I so wish I knew where to find this too, was an article I had to write about back in my human sexuality class in college. I picked 3 articles really, the last one being a whim because "hot leather on a saturday night" sounded unusual.

It turned about to be an article a man wrote about his trip to a gay bar.

Unlike the swishy-gay that the media portrays, this bar was "rough men only". No drag queens, no fancy loafers... men in jeans, boots, and chains.

In a way it's proof that "gay" and "effeminate" don't always go hand-in-hand. Sometimes gay men are the typical "man's man" and enjoy all things masculine

Then he's not gay.

It seems like you actually want him to be gay...

Drop it, he told you he's not, and he likes women, why push it?

no. your a creepy panda