Is my dads behavior normal?

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My dad has always had issues with anger, but I never noticed it too much until about a year ago because I've been too naive, I guess. Recently it's gotten worse, though. Even when me and all my siblings were little, my dad would yell at us, call us names, etc. Literally if we dropped a soda on the ground or something he'd get pissed (even if I didn't even spill). Now, though it's worse. He always calls us useless or stupid or "you stupid fucking kids don't do anything around here". My younger brother has some problems, they aren't too severe but they're still there. My dad ALWAYS yells at him (and I mean YELL. Like extremely loud). My dad hits him sometimes, but usually it's just threats. My dad got surgery the other day so right now he has a cast. My brother wasn't cooperating, so he grabs him and then goes "You jus made me hurt my arm cause you made me grab you" o my God it scarred the shit out of me. Who thinks like that?? He also always gets mad whenever we ask for something, "you know I don't have any fucking money" and stuff like that-we aren't rich but he can spare me ten dollars to do some stuff. Like Sorry you had kids and didn't know that we'd need stuff. He's literally always yelling so now I'm always either in my room or out with friends. He thinks I'm "lazy" but really I just can't stand to be around him cause he's always yelling. I literally can't stand him anymore because I'm old enough to realize how bad it actually is.

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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    I hope you don't mind my asking, but does your father drink a lot of alcohol, and/or has this increased over time?

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    • Ratman
      7 years ago

      Here you are again. You know you're like dirt: you're everywhere. Must you comment on everything? I was going to give this young person a very insightful comment about my experience with my father as a young teen growing up. But your mere presence diverted my thoughts. Not a problem I'll be back later. But you really need to give it a rest. Take the weekend off from IIN. People are sort of sick of you. Give it a rest pal. Okay?

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      • Tempest-au
        7 years ago

        Curiously, I have yet to see a post from you not filled with egocentricity and/or vitriol. I look forward to seeing your "very insightful post".

        Based on the generally positive feedback I have received from people, I don't see that people are (collectively) getting sick of me. Sure, some probably are, but then I am sure that at least an equal number are already sick of you too. This is the nature of this sort of forum, and a sad indictment of a society where anyone disagreeing with another's point of view is seen to be "hostile" and worthy of disdain.

        I enjoy being here. It gives me something to do in the wee hours of the morning when I can't sleep. If my "mere presence" bothers you so greatly, you must be a terribly insecure person, which is sad. That said, I don't see why I need to "give it a rest" because of your insecurities.

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        • Ratman
          7 years ago

          Not bad. Quite good actually. But way off topic. You are not the OP. This space should not be all about you. And nice neat paragraphing. I read recently someone accusing you of being gay. The neatness of your prose here sort of gives creedence to that accusation. The average male simply does not write so neatly. Got a little surgar in our tank, eh? No matter. Time to let others get back on topic. You've wasted enough space here. I'm sure we shall meet again.

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          • Ellenna
            7 years ago

            You're joking right? Neat paragraphs = gayness?

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            • Tempest-au
              7 years ago

              He may be on to something, I mean I have been known to fold my clothes, vacuum the floor, wash the dishes, and even bathe occasionally. ;)

              Anyway, there is one thing I can agree with Ratman about, and that's the OP's original question is now virtually lost amongst these comments.

              Perhaps that was Ratman's intention, to derail the conversation so he didn't have to face his own abusive nature? Poor little Ratty...

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            • Ratman
              7 years ago

              Of course I'm joking. "He" is very well aware of this. I believe that someone on this site should contribute a bit of sarcastic "fucking" around. Some here will take me serious I know. And I do read some really tragic things on this site. And I do get quite serious with some of my comments from time to time. Perhaps you have noticed that or perhaps you have not. I am a homophobic hetero but not a serious gay basher. I also am aware that you are a lesbian and I do hate you for that reason. :-D Gotcha! Just joking again Ellenna. Don't get pissed. I truly don't give a fuck what gender you choose to sleep with. And you wouldn't give a fuck if I did care. Right now I'm Ratman, next week . . .? Who the hell knows who I'll be on this site. Thank you for allowing me to explain myself, dear. Hope you have a pleasant weekend.

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          • Tempest-au
            7 years ago

            That was your "very insightful post" eh? Thought so.

            Now, if the OP would be so kind as to hide the off topic crap (which I'll take as a sign to delete my posts here that are detracting from the readability of THEIR topic) perhaps we can get back to a sensible and vermin free discussion.

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        I'm not sick of Tempest: don't always agree with her/him but that's not the point

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  • WhiteWidow
    7 years ago

    Trust me, there are other dads who are way worse. While he is stricter than the typical dad, it's not like he has you on house arrest.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    React with overwhelming sympathy and concern. He just wants to feel important, and attempts this crudely by raising his voice. He is a fearful man, but can be made friendly if you genuinely take interest in his health etc.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      Oh yeah, that's a good idea, reward him for being obnoxious ......... NOT

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      • riffraffy
        7 years ago

        He'd be shocked at the sudden sympathy, and it is hard to raise your voice against honest concern. It's not about rewards or winning, but by making your life better.

        You ought to consider shifting your outlook on social situations.

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  • Shiny_Down
    7 years ago

    Fuck your dad. People like him make me fucking sick.

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    • pantychaffe
      7 years ago

      Fuck her dad!!!well may be it would release tension in the house

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Move out?

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  • dvnkng
    7 years ago

    This comment won't be helpful at all but if my dad every treated me like that I'd take his back and choke him unconscious. Your dad is a P.O.S on a power trip, abusing people that he knows won't react in self defence.

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  • Reallyusuck
    7 years ago

    Try to get some help

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  • Dad
    7 years ago

    My Dad was physically and loudly abusive, after us boys grew up to be men all of a sudden he was nicest guy out, I literally thought he had changed. One day my oldest sibling brought his young kids over to stay and they must have done something pretty bad to him because he was yelling right in their face when my BIG brother came to collect them. Anyway, to cut a long story short I think he (my dad) didn't step outside for a week whilst his black eyes healed. No one comforted him at the time either.
    So it's like hereditary too, wait that's not my point! My point is inform your Dad that you may not be as forgiving when you get bigger OR your future husband/boyfriend may not be the patient type of guy. Best to tell your Dad to pipe down or he'll be sorry one day.
    Anger needs to be controlled.

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