Is my boyfriend obsessed with looks?

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Hello everyone,

So, i've been with my boyfriend for over a yea, we live together and have a great relationship, he treats me the best i have ver been treated and makes me feel loved. We get on so well and love each other a lot. I know that he loves me and i trust that he would never cheat or do anything to disrespect me. He never blatantly check girls out in front of me but he always talks about looks and i know looks are important to him, he always tries to look his best which i like because i do too. But if I'm ever telling him a story, he will ask 'is he good looking?' 'is she good looking' i always reply does it even matter. He always tell me i look beautiful or one of his friends say it, he will tell me being very proud but i would rather hear that his friends think I'm a nice person. if i ever tell him that my friends are family say his nice, he asks if they say he is good looking, but he asks in a semi jokey way. Anyway i do trust my boyfriend and i know he would never cheat, that does even come into it. But i checked his fb search history and everyday he is looking at girls profiles, some who are his friends and some are random girls. these 2 girls started in our company recently and e hadn't met them but looked them up on Facebook. Also, he was seeing this girl before me but dumped her after a few months, but every few days he checks her profile and there is this other friend of his who he has never been with but who i know is good looking, he checks her profile every fews days too... I know he would never text this girls are do anything inappropriate but it gets to me that he has to look at these profiles whenever i never feel the need to,

Should i not be enough?

Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks x

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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    it is completely normal to be a bit insecure and even jealous about how much importance your bf puts on looks and appearance of other girls. However, you should not forget that he obviously likes the way you look and dress too, otherwise he would not be dating you. So please don't underestimate yourself. As a guy in a relationship who also appreciates female beauty (especially in the direct environment) I would advise you not to worry about his browsing behaviour. He simply finds cute girls more interesting and likes being around them, which i think is often mostly an ego, status, or even instinctive need.

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  • prasatko
    11 years ago

    It is understandable that it makes you feel uncomfortable when he checks other girls´ profiles and when he is interested in their looks etc.
    I just admire your trust and certainty that he will never cheat on you. If I were in your shoes, I would surely be a lot more insecure and jealous and thinking about the worst scenarios.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    My boyfriend seems to care alot about looks too. Not to the extreme you described, but it makes you wonder you know.. "What else is there?" Whenever my boyfriend gets like this I think of "The swan princess" Where the odette asks the prince "what do you love about me?" and he replies "You're beautiful!" And she says. "What else?" And he says "What else is there?" Deep deeeppp words from my childhood lol Totally makes you wonder what else there is in his head. Does he like my personality? What would he do if I gained weight? Would he still love me?

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  • DameInDistress
    11 years ago

    Ok

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