Is my boyfriend lecherous because he is not fulfilled?

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Everytime we go out, my boyfriend is all about other women. He gawks, eyes them up and down like he wants to eat them up, ignores me, and tries to talk to them.

When we are alone he is on his knees telling me he loves me, that I am the perfect woman for him, that I am beautiful, and these other women mean nothing.

The woman he likes are completely different than me.

Is he lecherous because he is unfulfilled and is looking for another woman?

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Notice that he WANTS to be lecherous. If he didn't he would be much more courteous to you. If you didn't satisfy him sexually, he would dump you and search for a better partner.

    So the moral of the story is to find a new guy that you like. Fuck him and take good care of his heart. If all the dynamic work right, he will warm your heart and make you feel wonderful.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Your boyfriend is a classless lout. Why would you allow yourself to be humiliated in this way?
    Time to chuck this oaf out and, if I were you, I wouldn't even bother to explain why. I'm sure he wouldn't understand, anyway.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    9 years ago

    Well of course, but it is different for women. Men are very visual, and looks are usually the number 1 for them.

    For me, I like men who make me laugh, and how they look does not matter.

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  • Tommythecat.
    9 years ago

    Oh you poor dear..........

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  • CoraCook
    9 years ago

    Lecherous is such a sexy word....

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  • Holzman_67
    9 years ago

    that guy wants the best of both worlds
    he is confused
    a part of him wants the security of a relationship
    the other wants the freedom and variety of a single life

    HE CAN'T HAVE BOTH
    he needs to make up his mind.

    You should probably leave him. He's not ready for commitment it's that simple.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    Sounds like you should leave him. What hes doing is not right at all.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    Sounds like he's not the one for you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    You picked him.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      Exactly.

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      • CoraCook
        9 years ago

        Oh, shut up, both of you! You guys keep going on and on about how women choose douches for partners but ignore the fact that they initially present something that they are not, which is why they fall in love with them in the first place. It takes experience to identify a douche right off the bat!

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        • charli.m
          9 years ago

          This.

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago

          That's true too, but some girls pick the same type of guy over and over again and complain about there never being nice guys around. And in some cases they are with a decent guy already and end up deciding to go for another guy who turns out to be a douche. After that they complain about this new douche and wishing they had stayed with the nice guy.

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          • CoraCook
            9 years ago

            Because the douche pretended to be the nice guy! It's that simple.

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago

          Sorry, but no. Just no. When you can have guys acting like douches in their day to day lives to the people around them and to their friends have girls swoon over them and then they complain "I didn't know he was this way", you just make yourself seem crappy in observasion skills.

          If other people can identify them as douchebags then why can't they girls liking them?

          It's time to put responsibility where it should be. Not all girls choose these assholes but so many do and blaming everyone else but yourself is just incredibly petty.

          I can tell you first hand that girls I have been an asshole to have tried to be with me, some even being obsessive.

          Are there cases where girls pick guys thinking they are nice when they actually aren't because the person is a douche but acts nice? Yes, nobody will say there isn't, but saying that it's always the case or the majority of the time is just stupid.

          What can we do to prove this point? Well, we can make our judgement based on people in the public eye. Ok, given that we can't see how people are in the public eye through their personal lives only small bits picked out, let's put it to another form of viewing someone; TV show characters/movie characters.

          Looking at all the douchebags on TV, all the assholes on the shows and movies compared to the genuine guys in them, who are the ones women primarily swoon over? The nice guy or the villain or asshole who isn't a villain but still the asshole of the group? You'll find, as I am sure you would agree, that it is typically the villain or asshole character primarily.

          There is nothing wrong with women picking assholes if they are the people they choose to be with, they can like assholes if they like, but for the love of God they need to stop with this "pity me. Where are the nice guys!?" routine when they are fully aware of the asshole the person they picked are/were to people which then happened to her.

          It's just the way things are, trying to say women are never to blame for their choices and something else must be to blame is childish. Women are not children, they are adults, it's time to acknowledge the choices they willingly make.

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            This.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    9 years ago

    Please explain sexually appealing without being aesthetically pleasing.

    I would think sexually pleasing means a good body. These women do not have a good body in any way shape way or form unless you like midgets with big butts and giant tree trunk legs.

    I understand beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If that is his definition of "sexy" then he has a fetish for the unattractive.

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    • Unimportant
      9 years ago

      Not necessarily a fetish. It just happens, that out of nowhere you suddenly want a certain woman, even if she doesn't have a good body. This urge can be there for a short time, like for a day, and then it's over and you want something else again.

      Have you never been sexually attracted to a man with an unattractive - in the conventional sense of the word - body?

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  • Unimportant
    9 years ago

    Let me tell you something: A lot of people of both sexes ARE looking at other potential partners, while being in a relationship. The only thing your boyfriend is doing wrong, is that he doesn't do it secretly.

    You do not stop admiring beautiful potential sexual partners, just because you are in a relationship. Some couples even manage to "check out" (I hate that expression) the potential partners or just aesthetically beautiful people of both sexes together. I like partnerships like that, free of unnecessary jealousy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I agree that many men are looking for other partners, but the check out thing. Are you fucking kidding? That is a relationship where the man has all the control. Ohhh lets go out and look at woman with my girlfriend- maybe we can have a threesome.

      The other day I was at the grocery store. I an a good looking woman and the man stopped in his tracks and gawked at me. His woman gawked at me too! They just stared while I fumbled in my purse for my keys.

      This is not a good relationship. The woman is getting screwed.

      My boyfriend is not lecherous because I am ugly. I am better looking and more interesting (sorry to sound vain, but it is true) than any of these women that he gawks at and tries to get to know.! That is part of the craziness of all of this. He actually picks unattractive young women, but he could never be with them. And he does love my personality, and loves to talk to me. So what the hell!

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      • Unimportant
        9 years ago

        As I said, you can also check out attractive men together, so I don't really see how the man has all the control here. And if you think that women stop checking out other guys, because they are "spoken for", you are wrong. Maybe you are an exception.

        But, since the women your boyfriend was looking at were unattractive, I don't really have an answer.
        By the way, how do you know? Maybe they were attractive to him, maybe they were just different from what he is used to. Maybe they were sexually appealing without being aesthetically pleasing.

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