Is my boyfriend hiding something on his snapchat?

Me and my boyfriend are both 19 and have been dating for a year. He seems pretty loyal but we've always argued about social media, and recently he deleted it all except snapchat because of it. A few days ago i secretly went through his entire phone when he left it at home one day, there was nothing. But he deleted snapchat a few days before so i didnt get a chance to look through it. so ive never seen it or seen who he's talking to. I've gotten glances at it but thats all, and he's constantly on it. He claims he doesnt talk to girls. He just watches stories of some of his old friends (girls and boys) and whatnot, but he doesnt directly talk to them. However whenever i look at his chats i always see at least one girl ive never heard of. Whenever I point it out he'll open the chat but it doesnt really do anything because the chats disappear anyways.I know alot of people that have gotten cheated on because of snapchat.I say all the time passive aggressively that i wished i knew who he talked to but he still hasnt shown me all his friends. And he doesnt really say much or do anything whenever I talk about it. If he ever opens chats or anything its because i make him, and sometimes he'll get defensive and mad when i ask because its "annoying". Does it sound like he's hiding something?

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  • e51pegasi

    There is only one person who knows if he is cheating. If you keep pestering him about it with your admitted passive aggressive behaviour he is going to get extremely pissed off with you questioning his fidelity & finish it. Relationships are supposed to be fun, an adventure not accusatory questioning & simmering mistrust.

    Look, if he is going to cheat he is going to cheat irrespective of snapchat or any other method of communication he chooses, you have to believe in people or the constant displays of mistrust will slowly destroy the relationship.

    Is there something you aren't telling us?

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    • Nickvey

      what you said plus let him cum in your ear if thats what he wants

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  • Boojum

    It's clear you don't trust him. Maybe that's based on your gut-instinct (which I think women should always listen to) and it's entirely justified, or maybe it's all down to your insecurities and unrealistic expectations of what your relationship should be like.

    The reason for your mistrust doesn't really matter. The fact is that you snooped on his phone — which is really no different to you breaking into his house and rifling through his desk, drawers and closet — and you're basically accusing him of ether cheating or intending to cheat. This is not the basis for a healthy relationship.

    e51pegasi is right: if the dude wants to cheat, he's going to cheat. That's just how people are. Unless you're able to lock him in a room without any connection to the outside world, you can't stop him from talking to other women and doing whatever the hell he wants with them.

    If you can't accept that, then you should consider whether it's healthy for you to be in a relationship with this guy or any other person.

    As for him not talking to you about every interaction he has with anyone on social media, you need to understand that people in relationships are entitled to and need their own private space. Expecting him to allow you live perched virtually on his shoulder is not realistic, and it's toxic for the relationship. In a healthy relationship, the people enjoy being together, but they also need time apart and they should be free to interact with other people within whatever boundaries the couple agree to set.

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  • Nickvey

    i promise you this , it doesn't matter how jealous you are of his other women , if you can't sexually satisfy him you will share him with men or women all your life. if he want to cum in your ear you better let him . you are just the first of the women he marries . not the middle and not the last.

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    • ysgadksjab

      what lmao

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  • McBean

    You'll never be able to trust anyone. Ever.

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  • bigbudchonga

    Tbh it's really fucked up that you're going through his phone secretly. If my girl was doing that I'd dump her quick time, it's a complete invasion of privacy.

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  • sissycakes

    try not to worry. he is not cheating. it sounds like he is living in the past with his friends. he wants to be with them, but he loves you more. he knows that he cannot time hop, but it is reminiscing of the past when he was younger. people are happy when they are younger. they are happy when they get older, but when a person is younger life is simpler. ignorance is bliss and life gets complicated, but in no way does he want anyone but you.

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  • RoseIsabella

    If you don't like the way he is just break up with him. You're young, and I think you ought to be trying to focus on something like getting an education instead of this guy. Also porn is bad for you, it will rot your brain.

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  • Notderanged

    I wouldn't cheat on you, what's your snapchat?

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  • LionsMane

    Maybe he's like masturbating to strangers like people do on omegle and webcam sites. I'm not sure. Does he leave at weird hours and such or is it just the snapchat thing?

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    • ysgadksjab

      we both watch porn and we're both not ok with eachother masturbating to people on social media or on webcams. he doesnt leave at weird hours its just the snapchat pretty much. my fear is just that hes cheating on me through it.

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      • LionsMane

        How so? Sexting or what

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        • ysgadksjab

          just sending nudes and yeah i guess sexting or flirting with them.

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  • Mehereok1

    If you have the feeling that he's cheating..He probably is. Always go with your gut.

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    • ysgadksjab

      im just a really jealous and suspicious person in general, so its hard to tell. my family thinks hes a good guy and he wouldnt do it. but hes young and good looking so i cant help but wonder. doesnt help he gets off work so late

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