Is my boyfriend gay????

So its ok for you to make a gay joke but its not ok for him??? wtf!
You need to know that mkaing gay jokes doesnt mean a person is gay. Being turned on by the same gender and then deciding that you no longer want sex with the opposite gender is what makes you gay. It has nothing to do with silly jokes.

If you guys are having sex or whatever and he's got a stiff one, he's def not full fledged gay. Everyone's a little gay though, i mean, Come on. Just cause he's a little fem? Either accept him or don't be with him because he is what he is. You wouldnt want him questioning your femininity if you had some masculine mannerisms, now, would you?

If you're off-put by the way he stands and holds his hands, what was it that first attracted you to him? Also, by your own measure, if you were to do something someone else considered "unladylike" it would be rational to assume you are a lesbian. How stupid is that?

my boyfriend and my brother are both straight guys but joke about being gay most guys i know do

I wonder the same thing about my boyfriend sometimes, but gender role expectations are changing, which includes how men can behave as well. I would just ask him if he would be open to a threesome with another man and if he says yes then I would reconsider your relationship... Or he could be bisexual, which is perfectly fine.

Just because a guy makes gay jokes or jokes about being gay with someone doesent mean they are, me and my mates always make jokes like that when we are at school, and i can assure you, i am completely straight. you have nothing to worry about!

if your asking he probably is. but yes guys make gay jokes ALL the time. its the best way to get everyone to laugh (although it is a bit insensitive). i mean there goes the dbl standard if you can make gay jokes and he cant. sounds hypocritical and the relationship is doomed already if this bothers you.

guys have called other guys "gay" ever since the word "gay" was invented, and one of the best defenses against a gay joke is to play along with it, guys like gay jokes on par with fat jokes & yo mama jokes... it's perfectly normal and will probably continue to happen till the end of time

being Gay means BEING a homosexual. And BEING a homosexual means actually HAVING sex with someone of the same gender.
Wanting to have sex with someone of the same gender doesn't MAKE YOU GAY. Just like WANTING to kill someone doesn't make you a murderer.
We are what we do, not what we think.

Do you think maybe you are playing head games a bit too much? I mean you joke about being gay and its OK - he reciprocates and it means something else. Also - why is this (sexual orientation) a joke? It isn't very mature or respectful.

You know i kinda wondered that about my Ex, cause he had this INTENSE OBSESSION with anal sex... i mean i did it, but after a while it got annoying, cause thats all he wanted to do.. and sometimes he was really feminime.. idkkk.

Its actually quite common for Straight guys to make gay jokes to each other and to sometimes act gay towards one another to reaffirm their sexuality and to joke. Its usually the ones who don't joke back who might be so, unless they're Aspies, then they may not get the joke. Especially considering the lesbian jokes you throw at him, he may just trying to joke back.

You'll never know for sure.

So it's not disturbing if you joke about having a "lesbian affair" yet, if he jokes about having a "gay affair" it is disturbing? Where's the logic in that? Oh yeah, that's right, there is no logic!

If I didn't know any better I'd Say that you were homophobic yourself!

Politely ask him of he is. If he says "yes", don't scream at him or call him profanities. End your romantic relationship with dignity and respect.

I would look into it more. When you go out in public look at who he is checking out

I think that men that joke about being have a issue, Why would any man play like that. Is it get a reaction, really...UMMMM NO He wants booty, and need a women to help keep his secret that he really want a man.....I had A BF ask me what would I think if he told me he was down low....I said you joke too much about being gay and it turns me off and make me not want to be with you. He said I can not say I want joke any more about being gay...I said well I cant be with you day b4 his birthday we broke up.....I rather be single then not be sure about my man being gay....He can go find booty because I refuse to take it up mines...I will not do anything for LOVE, I am not desperate for a man.

Well I'm a straight female who apparently act's like a guy. People have thought I was gay/lesbian but I'm not. So I don't see any problem

I joke around about being gay with my best friend all the time. We're both 100% straight. Its just cause we're comfortable with who we are and each other. Our girlfriends joke around with each other that their lesbian too and theyre not either.

What did happen?

I honestly think that if you suspect it you are probably right. I went out with the toughest, muscular, sports' captain who was not the tiniest bit effeminate - but there was just something....
He was really seen as a man's man (that was right) who 20 years later told us he was gay.

JustDave - couldn't have put it better myself.

hes not gay. my boyfriend does stuff like that. sometimes ill ask him if he thinks a certain guy is hot just to be stupid, and he replies with a true answer.

i don't know, it sounds like he might be joking around with. why do you think it's disturbing about the best friend affair thing when you also said it? (even if you where joking,he was probably just making fun of you for saying it first!)

men can be feminine and straight. It's freaky but its true.
I cant tell you how many times ive joked with my friends about being gay. its really funny, but id never engage in gay activity.

Do you have sex?
Does he get an errection?
Does he ejaculate?
Does he feel you up?
Does he go down on you without being asked to?

These are things a gay guy wouldnt do.

maybe, just ask him

and hey i wanna ask you why all girl love lesbian seX ?? and it is normal to them to make sex !! gross !!

aboutthe gay joks i thing its not normal but maybe he is only joking just like you do when you joke with him about the lesbian sex ,,

if you wanna know about him if he is gay or not just make love with him then you can know make love not seXXXXXXX love, and watch where he is going and with who but do not let him know that ur watching im ok..

Ok, well did you know that almost every girl goes through a stage in their relationship in which they wonder if their boyfriend is gay? If he's with you and not with a boy you should not worry too much about it ;)

I'm a girl, and I love the femininity of gay dudes, I just think their fashion sense and posture is so sexy. You're so lucky!!! But I couldn't imagine sex with a gay dude. That would be a bit weird. :S

lol why guy hasnt made gay jokes about themselfes and friends? thats normal as fuck.. but if you think hes gay.. he IS gay. its just how shit goes. (ive got a friend that tries to make me think hes not gay)

Well, it could possibly be that he is (i think this is the word) heterosexual. And as far as making jokes? It's normal. But if you really are unsure, ask if he is gay.

I think hes as non queer as a 3 $$ bill

i have a similar situation. the guy im dating is being thought of as gay by most people. he has a lot of female and gay friends, usually hangs out with them far too often, and has "gay" gestures (the way he talks, and the way he moves his hands). he told me he has had a lot of relationships before (with girls), he even had a f**k buddy (still a girl), and had one serious relationship before me. but he was always the one who broke up with them. i have known him for 6 years now, but it's been just a few months (7 months or so) since we started dating. he told me he loves me so much that he actually is very eager and very determined to meet my parents to formally introduce himself as a suitor, but before that happens, he wants to make sure that he is already financially stable just so he can prove to my parents that he is capable of "marrying" me. he talks about the future, and having me in it, asked how many kids i want, and even indulges into a business just so he will be able to build a home for his future family. and he even said "i don't want to lose you. i will not just try, but i will do whatever it takes to work this out. i can wait for you, even if it takes forever." he is really sweet and makes me feel loved whenever we're together. im a virgin, we've never kissed (because i told him he can't, im saving my first kiss on my wedding day), although he already kissed my hand and my forehead and my cheek, but nothing more. he knows his limitations and he respects me a lot.

i don't know why but the first time i saw him way back, i thought he was gay! even my mom thought the same thing. i just don't want to be like my aunt - she married a gay guy, and she was blind about it for over 30 years. :(

we work in the same company and everyone in the office thinks he's gay. people even ask me "why are you dating him?? he's gay!" and when i ask for proofs from these people, they told me he went out with gays (most of the time), do karaoke with them, and what not. i asked him about these and he didn't deny that he hangs out with them because they're his friends, but he never went to a gay bar (he is even scared of the thought, but i dont know if he's telling the truth or whatever) nor did "gay acts". i asked my gay friends what they think about him (you know how it is with gay radars, they can "feel" if that person is gay, and most of my gay friends "feel" he is) i actually asked my bf personally if he's gay, not just once, but thrice, i guess. the first time i asked him, he said "and im asking you out. wth. yes, im straight. but thank you for being straightforward". the second time i asked, he was like "what do i need to do to prove it to you??? tell me pls." the third time, he said "u know what, im tired of trying to convince you. i didn't know your trust in me is so weak"

im so lost! why does everyone think he's gay? (and me too?) he's very feminine, wants everything clean and in order, very vain with his hair and face (he even uses products used

Sounds like the little fella may be a pee pee puffer.

no straight guy should act gay at all, unless they have suffered sever brain trauma, but that is the only excuse