Is my boyfriend cheating (wants to cheat) or is it normal?

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At first when me and my boyfriend started dating, everything was fine. He texted me daily, we were together multiple times a week (Even if just for half an hour). And he btw said he loved me all the time.

well… a month or so went by and i kinda noticed that he didn't really text me that much anymore and when i said i loved him he just said "Thanks".... I didn't really think too much of it, but then i found out that he had been texting a lot with one of my closest friends (a lot as in "Muuuuch more than he texted me" They would even text at night). He had been writing some of the same things to her, that he wrote to me when we were still in the "Pre dating-state", such as: "What do you think about me?" and when she asked him about the same thing, he would tell her that she was pretty and funny and stuff….

i confronted him and he denied it all and changed the subject all the time. I then told my friend that it bothered me that they were texting, so she stopped. As soon as they stopped texting, everything went back to normal and he was all like "I love you" and "I miss you babe" again.

The worst thing about all of this is, that i'm really in love with him and it would break my heart to find out that he's lost interest in me. And now. 3 months later i'm afraid that he might be doing the same thing all over again with some other girl.. :( *IN NEED OF HELP FROM THE INTERNET*

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  • fartonmyface
    10 years ago

    I don't understand why women choose to deal with toolbags like this, when there are so many single, genuine, kind men out there who'd treat you like a princess. Shame... Maybe you should dump this unfaithful moron and find yourself someone else who will actually make you feel loved ALL THE TIME, not just when it's convenient for him. Tell this guy to take a hike.

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    • Shroot
      10 years ago

      Agreed

      However it's not easy just to get rid of someone if you love them. I've been there. I was dating this girl and i KNEW she was no good for me. But i couldn't break up with her because i loved her so much. It took me a long time to find the strength to tell her it's over.

      It will be hard OP but i do suggest you end it with him, it'll be hard at first but like me, a few months from now you'll know you've made a good decision :)

      Good luck

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  • college
    10 years ago

    Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice...I think it's time to end this relationship. On a more serious note, I'm sorry this is happening to you because heartbreak is an awful feeling.

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  • the_lovely_one
    9 years ago

    Hey thank you guys for helping me. Believe it or not, it actually did help me realize some things.
    Status: About 3 months later he finally told me, that he thought that we should break up because he had lost interest in me. (After i countless times had asked him, if he wanted to be with someone else or break up, that is).
    It was a huge relief for me, because i just kept getting sadder and sadder. When we broke up, i asked him one last time if there was another girl, and he denied it flat.
    That is kinda weird, because about 3 weeks later, he had another girlfriend. You guessed it. That same girl, that i thought he'd been talking to throughout our relationship.
    They're still a couple till this day.
    I'm doing great by the way. I'm currently still single, and i'm totally fine with that :)

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    • (s)aint
      9 years ago

      Glad to hear!

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  • helpmeonly
    9 years ago

    i unfortunately as a guy have done this same crap never loved the other girl and only love the person i am with now,i had given some very similar shit to my current gf but meant it unlike i had with girls in the past and admitted my wrongs. all i can say is give it a bit of time and see if hes worth it.i think i dont deserve my gf but she seems to think other wise. the past,so torturous when you got someone you love very much.

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    • the_lovely_one
      9 years ago

      :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I just got half dumped last night and it sucks. But you know what?? We are a couple of fanfuckingtastic ladies an deserve better than the average Joe. I am sorry it is happening to you, but I would tell him to hit the road.

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    • the_lovely_one
      9 years ago

      :)

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    I dumped my ex when I still had feelings left ( we were a thing for over four years ) If you know someone isn't giving a much as you do, dump him or her for YOUR sake.
    You KNOW he isn't good for you and it's time to stand up for yourself!

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    • the_lovely_one
      9 years ago

      :)

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  • SvenTheBold
    10 years ago

    The key thing here is that you caught him saying the same things to her as he had previously said to you. That tells me he was reacting to what he viewed as the same situation; the start of some kind of relationship.

    Now, to be clear, I have no idea whether the "relationship" he was starting was boyfriend-girlfriend; if he's real insecure, that might just be part of how he makes friends, how he learns to trust people. And the fact that he was willing to stop when you asked him to is a good sign.

    But yeah, definitely definitely keep your eyes open. The fact that he asked her what she thought of him is ultimately suspicious, a caution sign. Either he's way insecure or he's looking for something more than friendship from the girl he was talking to.

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    • the_lovely_one
      9 years ago

      :)

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  • SkullsNRoses
    10 years ago

    He really doesn't sound mature enough to be in a relationship.

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  • Freedom_
    10 years ago

    He's a douche.

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  • Ms.Caffinated
    10 years ago

    How long have you been in the relationship? Also, is this a semi long distance relationship?

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    • the_lovely_one
      9 years ago

      We dated for almost 7 months:)

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