Is my boyfriend attracted to me??? he's sooo confusing!

Alright so I've been with my bf for the past 2 and a half years, we've known eachother for over 10 years, shared the same entorage, he's only ever dated white girls before me. I'm Hindu and so is he and I guess he was all for " brown girls are crazy drama freeks", but that shouldn't be categorized like that because there are many different races of girls who are like that because of more hormones than others lol. Anyways so the thing is that even at the start of our relationship sex was only happening maybe once every 2 weeks or once a month. And everytime ive asked him he said he likes to keep things fresh. And then he came to a point where he lost his job, wasn't working for a year, his dad was in the hospital for awhile for heart complications and for a year it only happend once a month... He said he had to drive cuz he was super stressed and down about his life and situation. It kinda got better but now we been living together for the past year and everytime I try to start up things to have sex, he shuts me down at least 2-3 nights a week and says he's too tired or he ate too much, and we do it maybe once a week maybe longer. And I been doubting myself thinking I'm ugly but I still turn heads, and it's not like our sex life is played out because we haven't tried majority of things yet... And I've got moves!!! But I don't get him... Could he be not as attracted to me because I am brown and his preference is white girls? IIN?

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  • First of all, a guy doesn't go out with a girl just because. It's either he likes ya, or he wants some ass, and trust me it ain't the latter. What logic would justify any guy staying with a girl he don't like? There is none, so he likes ya. However, not all guys, or people for that matter, care about sex. I've turned down many girls who tried to have sex with me cause I got more important things and gettin laid can happen anytime. If ya really wanna figure it out for yourself though, talk to his white ex's and figure out if he did the same with them. I just think ain't at the top of everyone's priorities, that's just how it is.

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  • blndgrl18

    i wouldnt keep pressing this issue, because it can ruin your relationship. just try to understand that he has been through some hardships and just be a good girlfriend by being there for him. also, he just may not have a high sex drive. Enjoy it when it happens and let it go when it doesnt. If sex is important to you in a relationship, find someone who wants to get it in everynight.

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  • Joce_29

    He may be gay, but only maybe. Stress can do that, but he really should have more sex if he's stressed, sex is GREAT for stress. Anyway, what you NEED to do is talk to him about it, let him know how you feel and what your concerns are. Also, you deserve someone who makes you feel beautiful

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  • Dazed&confused

    Lol hahahha oh man!! I have asked him about it MANY times and he reassures me it's not that. I recently dis break up with him over the weekend and got him to get his stuff and move out, and then a few days later he called me saying how he misses me and wants to work it out so now he's moved back home.... Damn he's confusing, I keep telling him actions speak louder than words, cuz they do... Could he just have a lower sex drive now? Cuz we did date before like 5-6 years ago for a few months, and although I never slept with him then cuz back then I was pretty much a virgin, he was always physically showing me he wanted me. FRIGG!!! I wish I was a lesbian!

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  • HurrrDurrr

    While I do agree with Jessicia to some extent (many men as a remnant of our bio-evolutionary past love to pursue/hunt) not all men are designed that way. It could be that but it's really hard to tell if that is the case, the only person who can tell you for sure is him. If you find he isn't attracted to you because you are Indian though, just dump him and give me your number.. I love Indian girls :)

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  • jessicia16

    he's probably like most men and turned on by shy / younger girls ... try not to be the one always starting sex ... let him start it ... your far to aggressive ... no matter what a guy says or even admits to himself he will always be most turned on by innocence and girlish qualitys... never strong girls and porn star types ... they stuff only lasts a very short time

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx

    Everyone has a type whether they know it or not. Find someone that is into you sexually and you will be much happier

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  • Dazed&confused

    True... Well he's been working steadily and making really good money the past 6 months and even now that I try I still get shut down lol. I agree about the vacation because we defiantly need one!

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  • BoredGuy

    I'm sure that's not the case. too many problems wore him out, you 2 need vacations together. also he need to sort his life a bit after all he went through

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