Is marriage suppose to be this way

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My HUBSAND told me I need to get me a job cause he was tired of paying all the Bills. Ok fine i got a job and I'm very happy with it. Now my husbands sister just offered him to rent her home cause her tenants who are living there now are 3 months behind in there rent and she's gonna evict them. My HUBSAND thinks it's a great idea but I don't think it's a great cause it's out of state and I just got my new job and I love it. I don't think I can do what I do out of state cause where I live is a big city and where the sisters home is located in a small town down south. I over heard my HUBSAND tell his cousin he's gonna get the House anyway and If I want to come I can but if I don't that's ok as well but he doesn't want to see his sister lose her house. I don't want to be selfish but if I'm not ready to move is it right for a married man to just up and leave his wife.. oh he also told the cousin he's gonna pay My rent for a year and after that if I don't move with him im on my own. I haven't said anything to him about me over hearing what he said cause I'm to disgusted that he even feels this way. So I'm very distant now. Is marriage suppose to be this way??

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    Of course that's not how a marriage should work, and I'm sure you know that.

    What I don't understand is how, given that it seems your husband wanted you to get a job to help with the bills, he now thinks he can move to another state and immediately start earning enough to not only pay rent on his sister's house, but also cover the rent on the one you're living in as well.

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    • Kittycat123
      5 years ago

      This is my concern as well. But I'm gonna sit back and watch this unfold

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    Your choices and his choices should be made together, especially things like this.

    That is just really weird.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Your husband sounds like he is very codependent with his sister, and its really inappropriate, and disrespectful of you. A marriage is supposed to be about teamwork, and seems to think he's the boss of everything. Maybe you are better off without him?

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    • lordofopinions
      5 years ago

      Yeah that was my thought too. Dump him and enjoy your new career and meet someone else with a brain and a heart.

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  • andithoughtiwasweird
    5 years ago

    it's a tough situation cuz he wants to help his sister. but if he is paying your rent anyway, cant he pay her rent money but stay living with you in the city? its the same amount of money anyway...

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    • Kittycat123
      5 years ago

      No

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  • pattkatt
    5 years ago

    If your are not an old women and nice looking tell him to go fuck his self but first let him pay your rent for the year then tell him you do not need him and find a new lover or husband who will want to be with you and take care of you.There is a lot of men out there that are looking for a women like you it will be his loss.

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