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Do you feel having marriage and getting married is pointless?
| Yes, you can still be with the one you love without marriage | 140 | |
| No, marriage is a declaration of love and bond that can't be broken | 69 | |
| Well...yes and no (explain below) | 53 |
Basicly a marriage is making your love "official". I dissagree to that, if you have to get married to prove you love someone then that shows that love is about actions not feelings and if I am wrong in thinking this then correct me but isnt love about how someone feels about you and how you feel about them?
You're right, love is about how two people feel towards eah other. But marriage is so much more than that. In marriage, you are combining two families. Not all families will view a couple as solid without the law saying so. I was with my husband for 7 years before we made it official. The family dynamics changed the moment that document was signed. I don't agree with this completely as I view many of my friends as family. Blood and paperwork are not what makes family.
So is marriage pointless? It all depends on the point you are trying to make. Marriage is not a selfish act and effects more people than the couple alone.
User ItDuz, is spinning this poll into an entirely different direction. The question is "Do you think marriage is pointless?" not "Do you think marriage is the only way to prove how much you love someone?" If the latter was the actual question, then you might have something there buddy.
I dissagree. If you look at love in the way im showing it to be then it makes it clear that marriage is pointless because you shouldnt need to do it just to show the love you already show. Maybe you just dont see the point im making. What do you mean dying to have a debate with you after last time? have we debated before?
And yet again, when did anyone ever say marriage was NEEDED? I think everyone has made it clear, including myself, that it is a CHOICE that two people make. You are making invalid points because the statements you are making have nothing to do with the actual question at hand. Marriage is a CHOICE that two people make to celebrate their love and to join together in a formal celebration. That in no way entails that marriage is the only way two people can express their love for one another. Marriage is not needed, but just because it is not needed it does not make it pointless. There is a deep meaning behind marriage that most dont understand now because we are in a day in age where love and marriage is taken lightly and disrespected by individuals who don't understand the true meaning behind it. Before you respond, read carefully ok?
but you voted for "No, marriage is a declaration of love and bond that can't be broken"
buuut it is broken all the time. how do you explain that
It's against the law to murder another human being. People break the law all the time. Does that make murder ok? No. Marriage is a bond that was established to NOT be broken, but people still do and that's on them. It still doesn't change the true meaning of marriage. Did that "explain"?
-sigh- sracasm is a sign of you trying to be in control of a discussion that I am not trying or have interest in taking control. I get what you mean now. You say that people who see marriage as pointless dont understand the concept of it and that it is pledging your life together "officially". So your saying that if someone who doesnt get married and sees marriage as pointless means that they dont have that level of compitment to the person they love as for the people who do get married have a higher level of compitment? So you need to get married to pledge your life together as one? (Your own words). Now I know you can say "I didnt say it was the only way to do it" but then what would be the point of it if there is another way?
You seem to not realise that I never said marriage is unimportant, I think that it is less important Marriage is an act of love but it is the persons feelings that makes a person make such an action.
I understood all of what you said, it is you that hasnt understood my wording and must have read what I said in the wrong way. Nevertheless what is with the sarcasm? is that your way of trying to be in control? like I said in the start (my first comment on this story) I said "If I am wrong on this correct me". That was me inviting you (or anyone else) to correct me. I have a feeling we have had a disscution before judging from your sarcasm towards me. I think you should focus on the disscusion and not the people sharing in on the conversation.
And by the way, the question was "Is marriage pointless?" So for future reference when you are getting ready to put your two cents in, make sure you are answering the question at hand and not venturing into another land. Take care.
No you still don't understand what I said. I still never said marriage was the only way to express how much you love someone it is a CHOICE. Let me break it down for you Barney style, since you are clearly not getting it. We all have a day where we were born correct? These are called birthdays. If someone CHOOSES to not celebrate their birthday, does it change the fact that when that day comes it is still their birthday? No right? Ok. Thats the same concept I'm trying to get through to you when it comes to love and marriage but, you are too thickheaded to understand or maybe you just dont wanna be wrong who knows? Whether you choose to marry someone or not, thats up to you. It doesn't change the ammount of love you have for each other if you both choose to stay commited without marriage. Marriage is just another way of expressing your love for one another, a ceremony, a celebration, of your love. It is NOT the only way you can show each other that you are truly committed to each other. IT IS JUST ONE OF THE WAYS. Get it? If you choose to act like you still don't know what I mean by twisting my words around, then thats on you. Just like marriage, thats your CHOICE. However, I wont entertain it anymore if you choose to do so. Good day ;)
love is about your feelings but it is also about your actions... afterall actions speak louder then words. If a man cheats on you does he really love you? i would say no. but thats just an action? its not about proving your love but at some point love gross bigger and bigger and marriage is a natural way to express love not prove it.
I don't think it is pointless but marriage isn't really necessary for everyone. Some people like to keep things really low key and don't feel the need make things "official". For me personally, I quite like the idea of marriage. I just think it is a nice way to celebrate the love between two people.
Personal choice. If you want to or feel ready just do it. I think it makes a relationship feel more permenant. It may not last forever but HOW WILL YOU KNOW? It's not necessary to go in thinking the worst and so in my opinion it is not 'pointless'
I put yes and no because you can still be with the one you love and not be married, but marriage isn't pointless. It really what you want.
MEN Avoid Marriage at all costs!!!
Learn from the lessons of all the men before you...you have more to live for, don't end you life with marriage.
Any man who has been married for any good length of time will tell you the same thing, no matter what race, color, religion or nationality.
DO NOT MARRY.
marriage is a bad idea you only get to fuck 1 girl and even if that pussy is bomb your gonna get bored and your not aloud to fuck other girls so you get pussy whipped cause thats the only pussy u can get
Look at the percentages guys, its in your face all the time. Look at the single guys that you know and then look at the single woman. I can say in my experience that, overall, single woman are much more unhappier then the single men. Thats not to say every single guy is happier then every single woman, but percentage wise overall single men end up less stressed and age much better then married men.
Now turn it around, and again, its not something that applies to everyone, but overall married woman, from what I have seen, are much happier overall then married men.
Marriage almost always ends up benefitting the woman far more then it benefits men. Men have just been "tricked" into thinking this is something they need to do as a "stage" in life or to be "accepted" in society.
Married with Children was just a television show, but there was alot of truth behind the jokes on the show.
From a big picture point of view, yes marriage is pointless. The tax breaks aren't all that great and people can get divorced so easily that it's not even a real commitment anymore.
But on a personal level, there's something about marrying the person you love and vowing to spend the rest of your life with him. :D I got married after being in a relationship with my hubby for 5 years. We figured we had been together for so long and our relationship was still on fire that we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.
yeah, in a way marriage is obsolete. i'm 36, never been married. no kids (just 2 puppies) . I think if I were to have kids I would want marriage, though.
In this day and age. Yes. So is religion, politics and illegalized drugs. If ppl wanna OD Let em. That takes care of that lot of the species.
Marriage is only pointless if both or one of the parties involved is spineless and lazy, complacent or unstable mentally. People used to get engaged for YEARS before marriage, it should have stayed that way.
I see marriage as a way to show off your love (in a good way) and also a meaningful sign of cometment (it is like you know someone loves you but it feels amazing to hear it) and then it is also a way to legalize a union (but of cours it is not necessary)
Well marriage is practical in a material and legal sense, but it has little to do with actual love. I believe if you truly love someone, you wouldn't need to make such a formal declaration as marriage is - your lasting love and true bonds would be self-evident.
Is is pointless? only the individual contemplating marriage can decide that.
first off, we are the era that people have more ex-spouse than gf/bfs. So what's the point of marriage at the first place? ;)
Anyway i think that marriage is totally needless in the first place, in our time.
I just want to take this time right now to say a hearty THANK YOU for first poll option (the one I voted). I agree completely and I don't understand why more people don't feel that way.
Well, all i can say is that I am with a guy that I love and love me. We already discussed marriage is not an option at the very beginning. He got divorced.She cheated. she had the right to a $5,000 ring, party, honey moon and the respect of others and his parents. She also got his name and had legal rights. Now they are divorced, he is disappointed with marriage.So the bitch that didnt deserve nothing got all, and me who he claims he loves and worships, will ge nothing. Its just sad.
i dont really care about the marriage thing anyways, but it hurts me the bitch screwed things for me and had it all without deserving.
Marriage was created to protect the interests of children.
Which is really interesting because everybody gay wants to be married and everybody straight doesn't want to get married.
It's meaningful for a lot of people, for some not so much. The real benefit of being married is the tax breaks and legal protections it affords, honestly. That's not to say you can't enjoy both the personal meaning AND the legal/tax benefits-I do. I couldn't imagine not being with my husband and I also couldn't imagine having to file taxes as a single person!
Soccerstud, that last comment wasn't meant to be directed at you, I was trying to post it but somehow it posted directed towards you.
Marriage is sacred, not pointless at all. The only people who would find it pointless are those who don't understand the true concept of it. Its not about the superficial stuff like sharing bills, its about pledging your lives to live for one another, to become one. Not that you can't do that without marriage, but marriage is the actual ACT of showing that thats what the both of you are pledging to do. In the end, to each is own.
I dissagree with that by saying you need a marriage to make your love for someone official shows that you need something man made (Marriage) to be truely in love. Im not a big one on the whole love idea but by saying you a marriage is the highest form of showing your love to your partner makes me think that love isnt about feelings and is more of your acts, which anyone can act like they are in love but its their feelings for their partner that makes it love.
Wow here we go....I never said marriage was the "highest" form of expressing your love for another person nor did I say you can't express how much you love someone without marriage. Reread my sentences carefully. I know you're just dying to have a debate with me after last time but now you're just reaching. As I said before, marriage is NOT pointless. There is a very good reason behind the act of marrying someone, but TO EACH IS OWN.
Yes that IS the fairy tale dream of marriage. But the reality is a different story, why should people try to hold themselves to a unrealistic fairy-tale? History shows it does not work.
Its time for man-kind to grow up out of the fairy-tale world and into reality.