Is loving an older man a crime?

i am 20yrs old girl, from a wealthy background and madly in love with a man of 57yrs. he married earlier with 4 kids, 3 girls and 1 boy. He is seperated with the wife for 15yrs now, after he found out of his wife's infidelity; though not divorced for their children's sake. And they are not yet wedded. The first girl is 30yrs,the second which is the boy is 28yrs, the third is 22yrs and the last is 18yrs. I will be getting married to this man in 3months time, and we are going to wed. but his kids seems jealous and perhaps not happy with me.they embarass me in my friend's presence and do other nasty things to me. At first my family was not in support, but finally they gave me their blessing. His children said i was in love with their father because he is rich, but the truth is that this man is just like a father i never had; he cares for me and do whatever it takes to make me happy. He is the first man i ever loved. He loves me so much, extremly much. but my fears is his family. Their father provides everything themselves and the mother want, just to make them happy. what will i do?

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  • norcalbuddha

    It's not a crime, although he's stealing your youth. Also, when you're 40...he'll be 97!!!!!

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    • BoredGuy

      she is not an infant you know, lol

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  • Ehm. Liking older guys is fine but that old... No. Not normal.

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  • confusedteen33

    Wow he's a terrible father. That's so selfish to even consider a girl that young. Obviously now that he's "in love" his family should accept it but he should never even gone out with you. Sure you may be seen as a gold digger but he's worse. Of course he loves you, he can show boat you around and have an energetic and young wife. You got played hard..

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  • BoredGuy

    rich widow at 40, not bad at all

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  • sherry

    Not meant to be that way. If you like sickness, no sex and living in a morgue, go ahead with this guy. It's ok for a while but then reality bites----hard. I speak from experience. I ruined my life by marrying an older man. AGE MATTERS!

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  • scotty4444

    Wedding in 3 months eh? And he is still married for the kids sake? I think you might be headed for a heartbreak. Older men will treat a young girl like a princess because they know they are lucky to have their attention, but do you really relate to this guy? Or is he just replacing daddy...

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx

    The reason that I have been with my boyfriend for so long is because he is like a dad to me (which I never had also) the problem is that you will want to cheat eventually. The type of love you have for someone who you have fun with and depend on is different from the kind of love you have for someone romantically

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  • pluto88

    The real question is whether or not it's smart to marry at twenty.

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  • randomjelly

    Your lover shouldn't be your lover because they have assumed the role of father figure. I would say it was normal but after you threw that in it does raise doubts.

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  • 1) Obviously people are gonna assume your a gold digger, whether it's true or not.
    2) I think you have a father complex.
    3) You're younger than all this man's kids, they ain't gonna like havin a mother younger than them.
    4) Ya shouldn't provide for anyone but your older man, no one in that family will likely ever respect you.
    5) Love knows no boundaries, and that includes age, so no it's not a crime.
    6) Your likely to be treated like this for the rest of the time your with this man, is he worth it?

    Overall Rulin: YES it's normal, but do some serious thinkin about it.

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  • supermarmee

    I am 28 and married to a 54 yr old man... We've been together since I was 17. He has a daughter 7 yrs younger than me, she hates me, he chose me over her because she didn't visit him
    And only wanted to get rid
    Of me so she was not missing out on anything from Him. Truth was, I made him happy and gave his life meaning again, he was lonely and his daughter rArely visited anyway, does his kids visit? They have their own
    Life to worry about, and the longer you are together, the more you won't be treated like a gold digger... It has been 11 yrs now, we have 2 kids and a great life... I hope you have the same and that you truly love him and plan to be with him forever!!!

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  • i don't love him because he is like daddy material. I do love him romantically. He appreciates me and said that i make him happy. Please you guys gonna give me advice not using abusive words. Although, thank you guys for your previous comments. I love u guys.

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  • ionamorgana

    Age is nothing but a number. If he loves you and you love him then whatever. The step children will probably need sometime to get adjusted to the situation. It is not going to be easy at all. If you think he is worth all of the issues then go ahead with it.

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  • ValidExcuse

    ....How did this question not get blocked in reviews? Obviously it isn't a crime.
    Obviously you should do what you want.
    Obviously you don't really care what anyone else would think or you would have never entered any type of relationship with him.
    Conclusion is A, this is just another troll or B. as with anyone considering marriage you're unsure and as usual you will have to make the choice..basically I wasted about 2 minutes of my life to say, up to you gold digga'

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  • supermarmee

    So how did you go? Did you get married?

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  • joelsmo

    You have one of two choice, to get over it and marry him or to move on. What do you expect his kids to think. Prove them wrong and insist on a prenup. If this is all about love then his money shouldn't matter and the kids will be off you back.

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  • chocoholic_chic92

    It isn't healthy. Every person I have ever known/heard about, and after doing a little psychology, that likes older men as in close to their parents' age, has got father issues. It may not be anything obvious, just something he has said/done got to you and you have not forgiven him. Best of luck.

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  • americanhoney

    Skiddlez where in the south are you from?

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    • Southern half of Delaware? I'm not southern, but I'm against society. Elitist f*ck-ups n' conformist jack-offs are people who would think that love is restricted by age and gender. Love knows no boundaries though, and people like you are way I have disbanded from society and dislike the classification of "normal".

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