Is love worth it?

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For a while now, I've been agonizing over the fact that I don't have a girlfriend, that I'm a virgin, and that I've never been loved by anyone but my parents. However, after reading about all the problems people have with relationships, all the cheating and abuse and heartbreak and neglect and arguments and stress and money and basically all the ridiculous problems, I'm starting to actually feel lucky.

My new attitude is that "true love" does not exist - it was manufactured by Hollywood and hopeless romantics dreaming about perfect relationships that never really exist. Basically, all relationships end in miserable failure, breaking the hearts of both parties involved. I figure that if my urge to have sex gets too overpowering, I can always see a prostitute.

But there's still a part of me that would like to have a relationship, to be loved by someone else. That's why I'm asking if love is truly worth it. Is it really that great that it's worth all the suffering?

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    No all relationships involve sex. Not all love is expressed by having sex. You seem very unclear on what love is.

    Is love worth it? Yes. Very much so. Love yourself, love your friends, love your family, love your pets, love your lover, and live being. Love love.

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  • xxbebopedxx
    9 years ago

    You just have to find the right person

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    In a word; yes.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    YES

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    • charli.m
      9 years ago

      This.

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  • Dulse.
    9 years ago

    Is love worth it? Only you know the answer that's most right for you.

    Either way, try to keep yourself open to the idea. It would be wise not to shut it out completely before you experience it for yourself.

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  • peterrabbyt3
    7 years ago

    Do you suck cock?

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  • joolia03
    9 years ago

    Love can only happen if you let yourself be vulnerable. And you sound like the total opposite of that right now. It can be dangerous in the long run. God bless my man for making me vulnerable. Ive never felt this strong feeling before. For someone is stubborn and tough, it feels good to let go of yourself and be vulnerable. You feel like a human and not a robot. We have been through ups and downs but to answer your question, yes it is all worth it cause you love each other. Just cause there are problems, doesn't mean its not love. It depends, but when it comes to love, those problems make you stronger and closer.

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  • Rebma66
    9 years ago

    Lol you must be very young. Having sex with prostitutes is not the same as having sex with someone you love. Generally life is better when shared - especially with someone who you have romantic feelings for. Love can be messy and painful but in my experience it is always.
    Always - worth it.

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  • sonnentanz
    9 years ago

    Yes. If you find the right person it will definitely feel worth it. Even if shit went crazy and I broke up with my boyfriend (e.g he cheats on me or hurts me in some way), I still would never ever for a second regret all the time I've been with him.

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  • Cherryblossomm
    9 years ago

    3 years with the same boy and we've never even had an argument I thought like you for a while but then he came along so suddenly and we just matched up so well. Sometimes we get slightly annoyed with each other but we just tell the other person right away and sort it out instead of letting it get worse and grow into a fight. I have a better relationship with my boyfriend than with anyone else, no one encouraged me like he does. And if I cry in front of him it hurts him so much to see me sad that he ends up tearing up too, and same goes for if he cries I end up crying. But we are the super annoying clingy couple so I'm just glad my two best friends are dating too. It's easy to become bitter and give up on love but it doesn't mean love doesn't exist or isn't worth it. My parents got divorced but they never really got along that well anyway they were just attracted to each other and that was pretty much it. But my best friend's parents were together from the time they were 17 and they are still mad about each other after nearly 30 years. And my grandparents were together from the time my grandpa was 14 and my grandma was 12! They cook together and end up throwing flour at each other and laughing and then dancing together in the kitchen. True love does exist but it does take work, it takes a lot of communication for my boyfriend and I to never argue. It is worth it to have someone I can take on the world together with things are not as scary when you have someone else to lean on and who can lean on you for support. So you can give up before you have even tried (you sound pretty young) or you can be patient and try to mature a little and let go of your bitterness. I never dated until I was 18 nearly 19! it's totally normal to not have a relationship until your mid twenties even! it's ok.

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  • dom180
    9 years ago

    Romantic love is wonderful, but that doesn't mean it's impossible to be happy without it.

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  • Dad
    9 years ago

    True love may be a bit out of Hollywood or a romantic novel. The truth is the honeymoon period does end, at that stage both people in the relationship must work together to continually build a happy a fulfilling life together.
    So I suppose the 'honeymoon' period is true love, so therefore it exists.

    Love (relationship wise) is such a strange thing. MOST will say they have found the perfect partner, but this is just not true. We can all fall in love with most people out there we are attracted to, this can be proven by small communities always ironically finding their love one, or people who divorce and find love again.
    So I suppose the definition of love may not be what everyone thinks it is.

    Sex (or physical attraction) is important with your loved one. When I've had sex with someone I feel strongly for its always a pleasure. A prostitute does not provide the same pleasure of oneness or warmth or love. Sex with someone you don't feel for feels meaningless.

    You sound young (virgin and mentioning your parents) You probably should accept that the chances of you getting in a relationship (multiple over time) is close to 100%.
    Once finally in a relationship, love that person as the one you are with ;)

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  • Asstastics
    9 years ago

    Why own a woman when you can rent them?

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