Is living with my father and brother making me more lesbian?
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So, now that's over with...
My father and brother are slobs, benefit scroungers, refuse to work even though they are educated, experienced and able; expect the women of the house to both provide for them financially and pick up after them, including visiting family; brother doesn't pay rent even though he has been on £30k per year (at least twice as much in USD) for the past 2 years and has now chosen to live on government handouts instead because nothing but an engineer's wage is good enough for him. They leave urine on and around the toilet, semen in the shower tray and facial hair shavings in the sink for the women to sit in/stand in/otherwise tolerate and berate the women for complaining. They leave dirty plates everywhere for the women to clean up then quarrel about when their 'turn' to wash up after meals is, and leave the pans for the women to wash up anyway. If they do handyman stuff around the house three or four times a year they believe they've 'done their bit' and refuse to do anything else that's not in their own direct interests, unless it's to show a 'stupid woman' how to do something. They treat women like they know nothing in any conversation vaguely related to a specialist subject of theirs, then pick apart the women's words and invalidate their experiences when the women try to talk about their own areas of expertise (despite the fact that the woman holds an Oxford degree in it and has her profession in that same field). They treat women's emotions like stupidity or mental derangement but expect absolute hallowed reverence for their own. They make fun of women's issues and women's health and treat them like they're disgusting, stupid or dangerous. The only household appliances about which they say 'I don't know how to use this' are the washing machine, tumble drier and iron. They say it with a smirk, like it's something to be proud of.
It makes me hate men. I am bisexual but the more I live with my father and brother, the more disgust I feel at the thought of being in a relationship with and living with a man at all.
I know that my situation with my father and brother is entirely normal, if utterly disgusting. But is the fact that they make the idea of a relationship with any man an absolute turn-off, normal too?