Is it wrong to keep this secret?

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Right this is a long and complicated one so sit tight.
My boyfriend works away and is only home on some weekends so i dont see him very much. This one weekend we went out to a club with his cousin and his girlfriend. Here is there story..
They got together when they were 17/18 and she already had a one year old but he treated the baby as his own. She fell pregnant again last year and lost it.
He can be a bit of a womaniser talks to a few girls in the sly an before she lost her baby they had split up for a while.
So anyway we were out drinking and she took me outside an started talking. She was telling me about loosig the baby which i was very uncomfortable with as i hardly knew her. So she starts telling me how they split up. She had spoke to an ex who lived by her old house and her boyfriend caught them and they got into a big fight. He then found out she was pregnant and asked to sort things. She told me the baby belonged to her ex an she had an abortion but she didnt want her boyfriend finding out because she said shed slept with him whilr they were apart and hed done the same. So she told him she had a miscarriage. So he stayed with her, few weeks ago she found out shes pregnant again and he is so happy as hr thought he couldn't have kids. My boyfriend always asks me what she was saying outside the club but id promised her i wouldn't tell him, am i wrong?
Seems terrible but i wouldnt want to split a family up especially with another baby on the way.
But my boyfriend always asks does she tell me about any boys because her boyfriend doesnt trust her himself.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    Stay out of that freaking mess! It's really not your problem.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    This is why some chicks like myself can't stand being around some other women! If I were you I'd steer clear of this stupid twat and her boyfriend both. If your boyfriend continues to pester you about this bullshit tell him she was talkin' bout female troubles and leave it at that.

    Keep your nose clean and don't get involved with that couple's trifflin' ass drama. Tell her you're not comfortable being her confidant on these issues.

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  • Karmasbitch
    9 years ago

    This sounds fucking insane. Go see a professional.

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  • Nancy_willington
    9 years ago

    Tell her you don't feel comfortable talking about it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Do not spill the secret, it is none of your business and telling anyone will only cause problems. She shouldn't have even told you. Many things are best left not talked about. There's nothing wrong with not saying anything but I think it would be wrong to tattle on her over this. Also it's over and done with and bringing up old problems is never a good idea.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      If she tries to talk about it or some other secret in the future tell her before hand that you don't even want to know.

      People have told me many things I would rather not know and I often have to tell people myself that I don't want to know their secrets. Often it is best to not know everything about people.

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  • royalewitcheese
    9 years ago

    I do try to avoid her my boyfriend doesnt like her either i feel like her boyfriend stays with her for the kids so does everyone else. I know its not my business just wanted to know if it was wrong thanks

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    Listen to the advice above.

    Also, to prevent this in the future, be more cautious of who you hang out with. Is it really worth the drama? If you run into her at family gatherings or any other outings and she tries to tell you these things, tell her you are uncomfortable knowing these "secrets" and that you would rather just stay out of it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Oh wow. I agree with the other comments. Stay out of it. That is a tough situation. I don't know what I would do! :0

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