Is it wrong to feel no one will ever want me

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i really want to explore sex as i dont have a lot of experience and i like women of all ages mostly and yet im very shy in person and dont know how to talk to women ive tried everything i can think of to find women but none show interest i feel that no one wants me in anyway that ill never get it again and love wont ever happen i one day want love but im not ready for that as i just split with my cheating girlfriend is it wrong to feel this way at this point ill take all offers as long as shes clean

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  • Gabrielpcpr
    4 years ago

    As futile as it may seem, it is important to have an attractive look, with a healthy shape, with muscles and little body fat. it is important to take care of the appearance of the skin and beard. buy some good clothes and go somewhere where you have women of interest. For me it worked better than I expected. it´s Works, believe-me

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    • john66669
      4 years ago

      looks arent everything and dont last forever im not into shallow girls i get making an effort but if all she cares about is my weight and stuff that isnt love

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    I've actually been feeling something quite similar for the past two years. I tend to feel like I will never want anyone in my life. Platonic people are cool, but I'm not interested in anything more.

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    • john66669
      4 years ago

      RoseIsabella i so understand what youre saying i try to not put the wall up around my heart so to speak as i know not all are bad but for now im just into platonic friends with benefits if it slowly goes somewhere great if not oh well and i dont care about a womans age or looks in most cases as i feel a true connection means so much more to me if you want to give a guy from vermont a try contact

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        To refer to a friends with benefits relationship as platonic is a misnomer.
        Technically platonic friendships are those that are not only devoid of romantic entanglements, but also those that do not include physical intimacy.

        I'm quite satisfied living as a solitary person. I don't believe in sexual relations outside of monogamous, committed, longterm and loving relationships. I think it's fine that I'm not open to the things to which I'm not open, the main issue that I tend to encounter are issues around society's views about single people who prefer to remain so.

        https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/platonic

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        • john66669
          4 years ago

          ok thats fine im just finding it tough to find women in my area or will come to me who want just sex im in a place in life where im not ready to love again and i just want sex i get many wanting to be single but love is great and can come to someone at any time so being completely closed off to the possibility doesnt help i also couldnt live without sex as i have a high sex drive and need it constantly

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            I could never love someone who just wanted sex from myself, or other women. I think it's good when women choose to respect themselves, and not give themselves, their self-respect and and self-esteem away to sweet talkers who just want to use them for sex.

            I'm not completely closed off to love, but I am completely closed off to casual sex, and people who don't understand about respect. I have literally zero interest in any sort of friends with benefits arrangement with anyone at anytime. No one has ever died from lack of casual sex. I would be content to remain single for the rest of my days rather than ever allow myself to be used. I'm just not desperate enough to ever compromise my morals, and values for the sake of empty meaningless encounters with individuals who don't respect me.

            You don't need sex, no one really needs sex. People want sex, but no one needs sex to live. People need food, water and shelter to live, but they don't need sex. I personally don't believe in sex outside of a monogamous, committed, longterm, loving relationship.

            I don't know you very well, but if you are wasting time, and energy looking at pornography and masturbating then that is probably why you think you need sex to live, but truthfully no one needs sex to live. As far as I'm concerned sex outside of a healthy relationship is just shallow, and meaningless. When people behave compulsively with regard to their sexuality they form a habit, because they get addicted to that dopamine hit that their brains release upon climax, it's really not that special, or unique. It's just people being slaves to an addiction to the chemicals their brains release.

            P.S. I hope you clicked on the link I left in my previous post to learn what the word platonic means, because if you continue to think of a friends with benefits arrangement as a platonic friendship people will think that you're a moron. A lot of people will refrain from correcting you for the sake of politeness, but believe me they aren't doing you any favors by refraining from correcting your mistake in comprehension.

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            • john66669
              4 years ago

              well i understand and yes i know what platonic means but also have known some who consider anything other then commitment platonic as far as sex many of us men need it i dont expect a woman to understand but a man needs sex its good for his mental health when men dont get it for a long time they get impulsive if im in a relationship i need sex or im breaking it off simple as that a man has needs and being that i havent had it in a very long time you can bet im seeking sex

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  • Nikclaire
    4 years ago

    Asked and answered John. Btw you never had a cheating girlfriend. You VC'd with a scammer a couple of times. Get mental help.

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    • john66669
      4 years ago

      actually she was real we dated even talked about meeting we did online dating etc... and video dates it was indeed real but she agreed to be anothers girl while mine after we had a fight something even i wouldnt have done i loved her very much and even though we arent together anymore i still care about her as she made me feel love and a kind of happiness ive never felt before Nikclaire get with the times a lot of people date online

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      • Nikclaire
        4 years ago

        Btw, I don't dispute it was a real person. It was someone phishing to scam you, probably found out you are poor or something, then moved on to the next vic.

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        • john66669
          4 years ago

          no she was real and never asked for money she just enjoyed playing games still wants to get back with me as she thought some girls i was at one time friends with online were ones i screwed after we split and said she wants me but its kind of a back and forth thing with her constant mood swings so i dont know at this point if she contacts again im only in it for sex as im done with her

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      • Nikclaire
        4 years ago

        Except that I watched it play out, in real time, right here on this website. It was over the span of no more than a week. You were begging people here, anyone, older women, then "met" this person on another site, fell in love, "dated", agreed to meet" and broke up for cheating in like 4 days.

        I'm sorry but you are either trolling or you are extremely delusional and misjudging what is occurring in your life.

        If it's the latter, please take my advice and seek professional help.

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  • john66669
    4 years ago

    it was in two weeks time of her and i chatting yes i came here as i wasnt sure she was serious about being with me no im not delusional but when i find a girl im really into i fall fast and im a one woman guy if im dating i only date one at a time as im not into poly and i feel it would be cheating i wont date a girl who sees others im not a cheat neither should she however if idate a girl into girls then yes we can add others to the fun

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