Is it wrong for your boyfriend to go out regularly with other girls?

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My boyfriend told me he was seeing his single friend for a catch up with a night in at his with beers etc. But then he came into my workplace and told me he was going up town. His friend had just been in with 2 girls and he mentioned that they were going up town. I asked my boyfriend if he was going with his mate and those 2 girls and he said yes. So he didnt tell me until 5 minutes before he was going that he was going with girls which obviously means he will be with them and dancing with them all night. I also asked him to text me.. just once so i know what time hes coming over tomorrow and he hasnt bothered. It just seemed dodgy that i had to figure it out as he hadnt even told me and im even more angry that he hasnt text. There have been occasions he goes up town or for drinks or to parties and there are girls there that hes 'happened to bump into' He has pictures with them and some were of him dancing with some girls in a group at one party a while ago (which i was invited to but he made it clear he was going with his friends)and some of him with this girl cuddling up to him in the smoking area of the club. The other week he went out to the pub for some drinks with his same single friend, the girl who was cuddled up on the photo with him and her friends which annoyed me as he knew i found her dodgy. He makes me feel stupid when i get angry about these situations. Im kind of getting sick of it. I dont mind him going up town and having a good night with his mates (as i do the same) but i dont like it when hes surrounded by girls even if i know they are friends. Is it normal to be angry about this? I dont even want to show i care but at the same time i dont want him to think this is okay. What should i do?

Talk to him 49
Be a little offish but dont mention why until he asks 6
Pretend im not bothered 4
Dont mention it to him and do the same to him to see if he complains 15
Make some snidey remarks about it so he gets that im angry 9
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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Yes it's normal to be angry. You should talk to him. I think it's not okay of what he did. If he were single, there would be no problem but he has you, his lover and that's a slap in the face for you. I'm really sure he would have said something if you were doing all these things and saw pictures of you cuddling with another guy.

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  • flutterhigh
    12 years ago

    That four out of five of your proposed plans of action are absolutely batshit retarded says you guys are probably fine together.

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  • NothingxCrazy
    12 years ago

    Communication is key in this sort of situation. Don't get mad at him, just sit down and tell him how you feel about it all. If he doesn't respect your feelings and doesn't even acknowledge that it upsets you, then screw him. You deserve respect and if him going out drinking with friends and other females makes you upset, something should change. Whether it be him, or the both of you splitting.

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  • cupcake_wants
    12 years ago

    Could it be any more obvious? He's not ready to be in a relationship. He wants to play the field. He doesn't even try to hide it. C'mon, girl!! You're being a doormat! My guess he's just keeping you around for sex and/or convenience. He's a male slut from the sounds of it. And you are the last in line out of all the girls he's sleeping with.. WAKE UP

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  • Eternallegs
    12 years ago

    If he goes out with other girls, then you go out with other guys. Plain and simple. If you are dating then both of you date, not just one of you...keep it fair: a level playing field!

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Why don't you just ask him where he is going with the girls? Then once he tells you, ask would he mind if you and your friends popped in later to say hello. It he objects to something so innocent then he has something to hide, the same if he moves on before you get there.

    I don't have a problem with it coz my husband drops me off to meet lads he doesn't know. However, I've been married 22 years and am not out chasing it!

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  • Dorellia
    7 years ago

    just don't get revenge because it will get worse

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  • jussayin
    12 years ago

    Of course! it's normal to be angry, unfortunately, these are the first few signs of cheating. But, luckily, if you talk to him and both still care, you may be able to salvage your relationship.

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    • riptide31
      12 years ago

      Maybe men have always cheated on you. Don't pass on your insecurities to the op.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    I mentioned it, we talked and everything he said made sense. He listened and understood why i was angry and he's promised he wont do it again. So, hopefully its sorted. Until another problem appears! Haha. Thank you for all your advice :) I appreciate it. x

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  • Racoon
    12 years ago

    IF he had nothing to hide then he would tell you upfront about his female friends.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    sounds fishy to me as momonator said he wouldnt like it i bet if you did the same

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    Well, torture is effective.

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