Is it wrong for a father to slap their daughter that is 14 years old?

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I'm 14 years old and I'm biracial. My father is African American and he is the one that slaps me. He lifts weights and weighs about 250. My mom is Puerto Rican and you would think that they would do the slapping. I get straight a's and I don't walk around dressed like a houchie. My father slapped me twice. The first time was beacause I cut him off when he was talking. The secong time was because I didn't take out the trash. The first time my glasses flew off my face and I fell. The second time my glasses flew off my face and I hit the counter and fell. Both times I tried to get up but he slapped me so hard that my head was spinning and I couldn't see straight. And now he wonders why I always have an attitude towards him. Also my parents are getting a divorce and my mom said that he's taking his anger out on me. She wants me to apologize but I can't bring myself to do it.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago | pl

    My father did the same thing to me.

    I think that it is cowardly for a man who is probably twice your size and quadruple your strength, a man that is supposed to protect you, to hit you like that. What kind of message is he and your Mom trying to send to you? Do you think he would approve of ANY man hitting you like that?

    No, it is bullshit. Parental authority my ass, I can see a spanking but to blatantly strike your children, children who probably wouldn't stand a fighting chance in a bout against you, in the face. If I could go back in time, I would have called the fucking cops.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    cut him off mid sentence " the police will be called if you lay another hand on me thats a promise" and mean it , if he hates u for it dont feel guilt at all thats his choice, have phone in hand at all times plus a lock on bedroom door if poss, your love is wasted on this imbecile

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    ....What does the colour of your skin have to do with this? I don't get it, why are you so obsessed with race?

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    • PapzBSlim
      11 years ago

      Was going to say the same thing but I think she really is trying to imply culture. I am of Haitian and Spaniard decent and physical discipline is normal in the family. I have never been disciplined or slapped for interrupting during conversation or not taking out the trash though so I would say this is a problem. I got my "whoopins" for doing something repeatedly after being told not to do such as playing with lighters or breaking things. I believe in discipline but only when necessary and I am not alright with abuse. There is a difference, in my opinion.

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      • squeallikeasacofpigs
        11 years ago

        Hey man, I'm white and I sure as hell got shit beat out of me as a kid, but oh boy did I deserve it. I just don't think being white had anything to do with it.

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        • PapzBSlim
          11 years ago

          I said anything about being white. It is about culture. There are Black Americans also. I just feel foreigners are more prone to physical discipline. I am not trying to offend you or anyone else. By the way, I have had White friends that got the same as you. I also would have to assume that you are above the age of 18 huh? I noticed this young generation gets off just a little to easily.

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          • Abby13
            11 years ago

            But no one can agree there are good and bad ways to physically dicipline someone.

            Was this a slap to the face? NEVER okay.
            Was it sudden and unexplained? also NOT okay.
            Was it hard enough to injure you, including bruise? Not okay.

            Was it explained to you why you were hit?
            Was it a spank on the bottom, or arm?
            Was it hard enough to feel, but soft enough that you weren't actually hurt?
            This is dicipline.

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            • PapzBSlim
              11 years ago

              I see what you mean but I never got physically beaten like I was some slave or criminal. I got hit, it hurt a bit, but I could easily forget about the pain in one minute. They never shed my blood or anything close but I did receive physical discipline. I always knew what I was in trouble for and was told not to do it before hand most times. I was not abused.

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          • squeallikeasacofpigs
            11 years ago

            Yea dude, 21

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            • PapzBSlim
              11 years ago

              So you should be aware that the younger generations gets it easier which is not beneficial to them. Your parents are more traditional. Lucky us.

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  • highrider
    11 years ago

    Both ur parents are assholes. Ur dad for obvious reasons and ur mom for trying to make YOU apoligize to HIM. My advice-get out asap

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  • kittylitter101
    11 years ago

    Don't you dare apologize! You have done nothing wrong! It is very VERY wrong for a parent to slap their child like that! It is even more wrong for such a large man to prey on such a smaller, weaker person! Tell someone about it! Do something! It's only been twice, but two more times than it should be!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    As soon as I read the first line I thought ' I live this guy ' funniest posts ever

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  • SangoNyappy
    11 years ago

    Maybe he's just stressed about divorcing but he shouldn't slap for such a stupid reason as cutting him off. I think he's the one who should apologize.

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  • Dot123
    11 years ago

    Kill your dad.

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    • throat_cutter
      11 years ago

      Ive got the perfect soundtrack for that as she moves in on the kill...

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      • Dot123
        11 years ago

        Nice!

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    Yes, he is wrong and he was out of line. He hasn't beat the shit out of you, but it's still not okay to do stuff like that. Maybe if you REALLY deserved it [like you stole his credit card and spend $3000], one thorough slap could be justified.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Threatened to call the police on him or make sure that you go live with your mom. There's absolutely no excuse for his behaviour. I've been "attacked" by my grandmother on a few occasions and she always expected me to "love her" like nothing happened. I don't get that mentality at all. All it has done is made me hate her more.

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  • throat_cutter
    11 years ago

    Threaten to have him deported to his Native South Africa, where he can finally go back home and visit his BROTHAHHHS and SISTAHHHS and he will recant stories of america, ultimately being subject to a brutal government regime by his king dictator, and spending his remaining days withering in the blazing sahara desert, unable to find food or water. Alas he shall parish in the urban slums

    Meanwhile here in america as an adult you will see him on TV digging for food in trash on a commercial. You may be tempted to adopt him, but recite the prayer Lord Lead us away from Temptation....

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  • MeHTa
    11 years ago

    "Eye roll", grow up and stop whining and exaggerating. If he spalled you for interrupting him, he was 100% right. So was he for you not doing house chores. I am both hands for healthy slapping. Otherwise kids turn out to be mental retards who think that the world owes them something. And to all of you suggesting to call a police. Well, go straight ahead, then be placed with foster family and pray to whatever you believe in to not to get molested or abused. No one will love you more then your own parents. I remember trying this with my dad. You know what he said? "I would rather rot in prison then let my child be a parasite to this community." Now, i am in college, never did any drugs, was always happy and there are no people on this earth I value more then my parents. Thank you, mom and dad for beating the shit out of me when I even remotely tried to do drugs. Best rehab- LEATHER BELT!

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    • kittylitter101
      11 years ago

      You've been brainwashed by him. Fuck you. Don't you pretend something like this is petty. You're a damn fool whose parents didn't love them enough to keep their hands off you.

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    • PapzBSlim
      11 years ago

      I do not know why people thumbed you down. Maybe how you stated it seemed very harsh. I too am very thankful for my beatings. God knows what could have happened if I didn't learn limits or boundaries.

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      • kittylitter101
        11 years ago

        What kind of place is this where people say that this is OK? These kinds of things weren't exaggerations. If a 250 pound man slapped you, you would fall too! This kind of abuse can lead to emotional and mental scarring. I mean it's obvious in you, because you think it's alright for him to do this. My dad would never slap me, EVER. Your parents shouldn't have either. There are much better ways to discipline a child!

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        • PapzBSlim
          11 years ago

          So a couple slaps equals abuse to you? Are you the type to get a call from an ex one time and get a harassment charge filed? I was taught to never interrupt my parents when they are speaking and to do my chores so I never got slapped for those reasons. Setting something on fire or constantly disrespecting my elders, yes I got physical discipline. By the way, I am 6'4 230lbs now and grew to be a strong, respectful guy who wouldn't slap a girl for a mistake once or twice, but constantly? I guarantee you that this girl does not interrupt him any longer and does her chores.

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          • AbnormallyAwesome
            11 years ago

            If your child does something it shouldn't do. Just shoot it.
            I guarantee you it won't do it again.

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            • PapzBSlim
              11 years ago

              I have dealt with people like you. You go all the way or you do not go at all. No compromise. Just follow the lead I suppose.

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  • TchCaptainLevi
    7 years ago

    No that is not normal,my dad had hit me a couple of times and keeps threatening to hit me. He always raises his hand and threatens to hit me. I try to stay strong,telling him I will call the police if he dares lay a hand on me,but he never listens. My thearapist and I agreed that my dad was the problem. And your dad is the problem too.

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  • Barberic
    11 years ago

    "... spare the rod and spoil the child."

    -Samuel Butler

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  • redtruck
    11 years ago

    That's bad !!

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  • pambambam
    11 years ago

    tell the police .

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  • celicia
    11 years ago

    For Chotusstroker83.
    You have a disgusting dirty mind. And you should have NEVER posted that! Do you realize that i'm 14 and people still consider me a child. I COULD EASILY SUE YOU FOR THE WORDS YOU SAID. AND I HOPE THE PEOPLE THAT READ THIS AGREE THAT YOUR DISGUSTING!... I don't know HOW old you are but it's DISGUSTING AND NOT RIGHT FOR SOMEONE TO SAY THAT! Your the kind of person that makes people want to kill themselves, because of your disgusting and dirty mind! YOU SHOULD GO TO A MENTAL HOSPITAL!

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  • jessicababy33
    11 years ago

    Dear writer,
    I'm sorry. Your not the only one! My dad was really bad growing up ,and I hate to hear that happen to someone. It is scary to handle. Do tell someone else then your mom? I'm kinda upset she wants you to say sorry? I understand if you don't mean it ,and let it role off your back, but if I were your mother I wouldn't have it.

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  • --ash--
    11 years ago

    He brought you into this world & can take you out. Quick move out while you still know everything!

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  • Chotusstroker83
    11 years ago

    Does he slap her on her bare bottom and call her daddy's little naughty girl??

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    It's not the end of the world. "My dad slapped me twice" So what?

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    • celicia
      11 years ago

      Has he hit you to the point that you've fallen and have to put ice in your face? The bad thing is that he tries to apologize to me afterward and then he thinks that it's all back to normal.

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      • kelili
        11 years ago

        Sorry yesterday I was feeling like shit, was a bit depressed. But to give my true opinion I think it's really bad that your father has beaten you and you would surely never forget this but no man's perfect, the world's not perfect. I could tell you to talk to him but what has happened has already happened and I hope that these incidents do not change your person. Yesterday I was feeling real bad and look what I have written. This bad side is part of me but I'm not only that. I can a sensible person but it's just that sometimes my bad side take over and I become an asshole. It's a weakness and I regret my above comment and I think that your father has the same problem.

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