Is it weird to be spanked by your father-in-law?

thats what you get for marrying into a family of weirdos lol.
sounds to me like the father in law is a spanko who gets off on whipping your butt.

Young lady: NO!!! This is NOT NORMAL! Get your self out of this situation, even if it means getting a divorce. You cannot give power over yourself to some one else, even your husband; if you choose to allow him the power to punish you, you need to question your own self esteem. It is not incumbent on you to accept his culture's mores; he MUST respect your social and personal values. Does he try to impose his religious values on you? Would you accept them as readily as you seem to have accepted the idea that he is free to punish you? If you do not take care of your own self esteem, no one else will. Put an end to this!

A friend

Seriously what kind of culture is this? In American culture it's not even close to normal! You're not living in their country emerged in that culture you are here in America where you have the choice and freedom to not be "spanked" by your fil. I almost feel like this is a fake submission but felt compelled to respond. Here's the thing I do believe that a man should be the head of the house, but to fully submit yourself to him is a whole other can of worms. Make a statement and DO NOT allowed you fil to embarrass you like that again! Also I do "get it" with your husband and him being raised in this culture but how could you be married to someone who wasnt a true man and stood up for you, put his foot down and said NO I Will not allow you to hurt my wife!" seriously what culture is this? And what does your family think?

seriously, you love a man that is willing to let his farther spank you with straps and belts. you need to go talk to your side of the family about this and see what they have to say about an old perverted man sexually assaulting you. I think you need tell your husband that was unacceptable and if he threatens you with that again call the police or your farther. How do you think your farther will react when he hears this. I really think you should take one of the two options i have mentioned. Call the police about it, or tell your family. you have a right to have fun. dont let a perverted old man stop that.

Dear Young Lady:

After writing the last response, it occurred to me that there is another issue here: The beating by your FIL constitutes assault and battery. Please go talk to the District Attorney where you live. You will have to press charges; DO IT! This will probably end your marriage. Do not permit your husband to continue to commit battery against you too! Please take care of yourself in both body, mind, and spirit. God bless you!

A friend

Ill answer your question when Ive finished wanking

I was spanked on my bare bottom often by my father in law often before I was married he was training me to be a good husband my future wife would watch her dad take my pants down and spank me hard she said she enjoyed watching this every time

I don't think this is odd at all...I think more women are spanked but no one ever talks about it (and why would they!)

I was spanked on my wedding night..and yes, I was not expecting it. I've been spanked off and on since then.

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Are you still using IIN? Then write to me. You are not alone. I am just like you or even in more painful. But my marriage life is still fine.

When you married you knew what you were getting into honey. While I don't agree with the FIL spanking you naked you need to express this with your husband and to really explain to him how this makes you feel and why. I too married a man from another culture. And while he has not spanked me. He is head of he house and he expects to be obeyed. His father is the same way. But I would expect my husband to deal with the matter. My suggestion you should not drink and watch your mouth. His parents are elder and deserve respect. You need to really decide what you will and wont accept. Because it may come to it that your husband agrees with his father disciplining you. Wish you all the best.

I am not sure about this one.

I think normal in this case is culture specific. In the US it is not normal. In certain cultures in the east it is seen as normal. Respect for elder male figures is much more solidified. Also corporal punishment is much more common. Many eastern countries still have corporal punishment carried out by the state (i.e. caning in Singapore). Certainly there is a normalcy in spanking ones children even in many western countries. In the east there are many cultures where the wife becomes part of the husband's family (one of the reasons the dowry is still so important there). As a result many wives actually live with their fathers in law and are punished just like their own daughters. I think it is normal in some cultures. Maybe the question is are you ok with it? If not then get out as it is pretty clear that is the expectation.

My own wife spent over a year in a homestay and had a similar experience. The father of the family she was staying with had to accept her in as another daughter for her stay not just a "foreign stranger" living in their house. He had to accept responsibility in caring for her but her behavior was also a reflection on him in the village. As a result, he punished her when she broke the rules. This often meant she got a spanking. She was studying local culture and so as much as she hated getting punished she appreciated understanding that part of the culture and she never would have had the access to the information she did have if she had not been part of the family. I think once we get past our own initial culturally bound interaction we do start to have a greater understanding. Most people would say that eating cats is not normal, and in the context of our culture, I would agree, but that does not mean it is not normal in other cultural paradigms.

I am the one in our family that gets spanked by both my wife and mother-in-law. 1/2012