Is it weird that i don't want to date/marry someone from my race

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As a black man I get a lot of shit for this from a lot of people but I am not really happy dating someone or happy with the thought of marrying someone from my race.

Its not like I haven't tried dating women in my race but its like they don't want to have anything to do with me.

But women of others races are different I find that its easier to talk to them and that I find myself happier doing so.

But most call me a sell out or they think I have some kind of fetish but its not like that at all I really intend to find the right one to marry.

Saddest part is there is a clear bias a black woman won't get as much hell if she dates outside her race if anything she gets praises for it.

Personally I don't care what people think because its my life and I can do what I want to do with it.

I was wondering if anyone else had similar problems because I am aware that its not just a black issue?

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  • Lunamoon101
    5 years ago

    It’s normal for people to act like they should stay in their race for the older baby boomers like my parents. I can remember my father telling me about that as a teenager and so can my husband. I just never brought home anyone until I was serious about them. I would think it would be the same for you also. But I did end up finding a husband that is windfall inside my race but he was hard to find. I had searched for a long while for someone to share my life with I could talk with anyone from anywhere and still do. Although I will say that my so called friends of that time frame I lived in an all white area so the females they always wanted to know about size of well shoes, and males were either laid back or ignorant. Now that I look back though my parents said they wouldn’t have liked it but they love me so they would come around or they wouldn’t have had me in their lives. Which I believe they figured out because I dated men and women and they didn’t like it but they came around.

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    • Opaquehaze
      5 years ago

      Kind of reminds me of my great grandmother who was German American with Cajun blood.

      she was from St Louis Missouri my great grandfather who was black american was of Hausa-fulani and malagasy decent also being from there as well.

      From what my grandfather told me his mothers side of the family cut her off when she got with my great grandfather who was in the military at the time.

      It wasn't as much as racism but it was the times back then and it was just how things were I understand that bit.

      but they stayed with each other and had a happy life until they both died.

      My great grandfather out lived my great grandmother by a year.

      I only meet my great grandparents once but I was to young to remember.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I think it's not uncommon that Caucasian people, and others have a preference, or a "type". As long as you don't have any racist feelings behind your preferences I don't have a problem with it. I think that although you may get accused of being racist by others you need to take a good look inside yourself, because only you know how you feel inside.

    Whatever you do don't treat black women as less than! For example: if you are a position to hire people don't hire a non-black woman over a black woman simply because you find her more attractive, because that would be wrong. In your daily activities judge people as individuals on theirs merits, not by their race or as a group.

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    • Opaquehaze
      5 years ago

      I get what you mean its not that don't find black women as not being attractive and less then.

      And I agree that ones merits count so I wouldn't dismiss someone in social interactions.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Good to know.

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  • redrainbow22
    5 years ago

    Race is completely irrelevant.

    If you met the love of your life, and he/she happened to be a different color of skin, would it really matter?

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  • _confused_
    5 years ago

    It's your preference, there's nothing abnormal about it

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