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Most of them can't keep the conversation going and that creates awkward silences, and I find that men online are rude and unfriendly and cold, I don't have the same problem in real life!
Some of them are cool but most aren't.
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As someone who has used dating sites I can say that yep, there are a lot of weirdos on there. These weirdos either didn't read my profile before messaging me, hid the fact that they had kids, lied about their age, lied about their gender, were whiny snowflakes, had anger issues, were racist, or had drug problems. It takes a lot of patience to wade through the waters of crazy and find someone.
Well...one look at your picture and I'm sure they just want to screw... Unfortunately that's what a lot of people use those sites for. I've never been on one and never plan to be, but I've heard enough to believe that mostly, people are just on there to hook up real quick. They must think every dating site is like tinder..
I suspect you're with the same dude you found some time ago, 2 years maybe? At least a year...anyway... You seem very happy with him and I'm happy for you about that. You're a good one :)
My wife was on a dating website and found that all the men were interested in was seeing her naked and not much intelligent conversation took place.
I don't know I only used a dating website once.
The girl I met was nice but boring there wasn't a second date.
I met my long, tall Texan on Plenty of Fish, but I think it was certainly more the exception than the rule to be completely honest. I'm old enough to say that I used to meet a lot of guys on AOL, and 95% were just weirdo-horny-losers.
If you're going to try to meet people online you need to know who you are and what you stand for, it's the last place to tout the virtues of being open minded, because if you open your mind too much your brain will fall out. Don't be too open minded when trying to meet and date people from online, because you'll be putting yourself in a dangerous position and practically inviting people to take advantage of you.
I met my husband on POV, and although he's rather shy/socially awkward lol he is the best man I've ever met!! If it wasn't for online dating we would probably have never met and if we had have he probably wouldn't have had the courage to make a pass... I personally like the idea, I think you are less likely to settle for less or comprise on things important to you because there's no click at first, when I've met guys in real life, I hit it of well but there has been something important missing from their character or personality and I had accepted them anyway because we already hit it of,then realised it was a big thing to compromise on. online though, you can just decide to stop messaging each other and keep looking, you're more likely to find a good match.with your brain and not those silly emotions we all get in the beginning of a relationship But yes there are tons of weirdos... these weirdos are in the real world too though, they just don't have "behind a computer confidence" so are better at hiding it or keeping up a mirage.. keep trying, and try not to take it to heart, maybe mr right just hasn't signed up to it yet, who knows about tomorrow though... just keep safe and ignore the weirdos
They are mostly creeps who cant get dates or using the websote to find casual sex partners.
My best friend met her now husband on match.com and they are a perfect couple expecting their first child in a few months. Im sure there are a lot of freaks but it's got to be hard meeting someone if your older
What defines someone as a "weirdo" to you? I'll tell you what's "normal" is people being weird. Everyone's different and if they just fit into the box that society constitutes as "normal" they are probably quite boring anyway. Now on another note, ya when it comes to internet dating I'd guess that there are probably always going to be heaps of horny men that just want to get to bed with somebody, But is that weird ? or is that just a normal human condition type desire that men have and are obviously going to pursue? - and ya imagine there are many people who are not the socially comfortable type of people who turn to internet dating as a safe space to break the ice from afar, and perhaps I imagine many of them just need someone to pay enough attention to them to help them get past their awkwardness, like a book that takes a bit more time to open. But ya, all in all, the internet is a very diverse place, from the strange to the typical, I'm sure you'll see a wide variety of "weirdness to normal-ness" if you try online dating.
There's a reason why a lot of people resort to online dating, because they're fucking weird.
It goes both ways. I've met a few decent women on dating sites, but the last one..Wow, talk about zero conversational skills and my basically talking to myself most of the time when we met for coffee. At one point, I actually said to her, half-joking, "Don't talk much, do you? I'm trying here". That was one date that I was happy to get back to my car with only Panera coffee expense spent.
Have met several other weird ones. Woman who fed her two kids, even though they were more than old enough to eat on their own, another who's 11 year old daughter slept with her at night, one who, as things were heating up between us, was into choking during sex and pressed her thumbs into my throat (causing me to push her off, fast), and, more recently, a nice, cute blonde who took her time to tell me she was bipolar, on many meds, was a swinger, and, her live-in bf was coming home and he was "very possessive". Cute or not, I exited the situation.
I'm lucky to have a business group and personal friend who's not only sweet and sexy, but, is fine with our being FWB's with no strings attached. We also trade dating hell stories. She'll sometimes joke around and say "We should just be with each other and avoid all this dating crap".