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My exgirlfriend hates me. I deserved it, I didn't treat her too well after we split. I don't want her back but I want her to know the truth. I want to tell her I'm sorry for how I treated her and ask for her forgiveness. I want to make it right, it's the honorable thing to do. The thing is I don't know how. It's been a long time since I last saw her.
You're a good guy for wanting to put it right :) if you feel in your heart you really want to speak to her and apologise then go for it :)
It's never too late for an apology.
I think a lot of people appreciate a sincere apology, even when they aren't able to forgive. Give your apology without any expectations for the outcome and you should be good.
Sometimes the best way to make things right is to leave them alone and let them sort themselves out. But if it's been a long time and she's not sensitive about it anymore, maybe the spirit of your apology will be appreciated.
Be conscious of the fact that you probably want to do this just as much for you as you do for her. Your motivation isn't just to make her feel better, it's also because you don't want her to think you're a bad person.
I don't know why, but I feel like you should write her a letter (not a text message or anything like that, but an actual, handwritten letter) and give it to her in a way in which she won't actually be able to see you. Also, in your letter, make it known that you're not writing this with any ill intentions. Hopefully, she will understand. However, whether she forgives you or not, don't expect a reply or seek her out again.
Leave the poor girl alone. She probably couldn't care less about your apology, especially when you are making it to make yourself feel better, not her.
Just call her up. It's normal if some of the reasoning behind wanting to apologize involves not wanting to feel like a bad person. If you feel bad over it, it's because you feel guilty. So see, it's not always THAT self-serving to feel this way. Just don't emphasize your own need for relief too much. Be selfless and about her. Go ahead and do it, but without expecting anything in return. You never know if she held onto that and needs closure to be released from it. I've received closure like this before and it really meant a lot.