Is it risky to date a man who was never in a relationship?

My boyfriend never dated anyone I was his first. Been together 3 years now. He’s been asked out but always rejected cause he liked me. We met in 6th grade and were friends since. I don’t think it’s a bad thing maybe he’s waiting for the best one first. Ik my boyfriend wasn’t very experienced but that was no problem for him but tbh I was a lil nervous at first cause of that but it was never as bad as I worried. You learn as you go with any relationship and if it’s meant to be don’t matter what number he’s on.

You have an equal chance of breaking up with him as his 25th girfriend would, if he gets one.

No not at all. If anything it's better.

What could have been a bad sign would be if he was hidding the fact that he had no previous relationship before you. If he's open about it, it's probably a nice and honest guy. You should give him a chance.

People not having a serious relationship until they're in their twenties is a little unusual these days, but there could be lots of perfectly reasonable explanations for this. Not least of these is that some people take longer to mature and get to the point where they feel confident enough about themselves that they're able to get into a relationship where they have to reveal who they truly are to another person.

It seems to me that the most important factor determining the lifetime of a relationship is how willing and able both people are to communicate clearly, deal with any conflicts in a positive way, and find compromises both people can live with. The usual way people learn that is by going through a few relationships that end badly, but it is possible your guy has learned it either by observing how his parents or other adults interacted when he was growing up or from other non-romantic relationships.

The other concern I think it would be reasonable for you to have is that his expectations might be too high. Relationships change over time, and it's normal for the early passionate obsession to fade away. If he doesn't understand that, then he might conclude that the waning of new relationship energy means that he no longer loves you.

As I'm sure you know, all relationships involve risk, and few long-term relationships started when the people are in their twenties lasts until one of the people dies. However, it's not unknown for a first-relationship to last a very long time, so you should try not to worry too much about probabilities. You two are where you are today and that's in a good place. Focus on enjoying what you have now, work on your communication and conflict resolution skills, and try not to worry about where the two of you will be in two, ten or fifty years from now.

Have patience, he'll make a lot of mistakes, and you'll have to be very honest/direct with him on shit he does wrong without being demanding.

Along with that, when things start going south on major problems, know when to walk away; especially if you did all you could to remedy the issues. Understand that he will only change when he wants to, neither time nor you will change him into a man that you need/want.

I'm on the other end of the scale, I was trying to find someone to be my first "serious" bf.. well I thought I had found him.. he does what hes sorta doing to you.. at each birthday and Christmas he would get me more then one thing.. sometimes expensive stuff... well we recently went through a bad break up at my expense because of his faults and ways (and blames me for it)
Now that's no way that I am saying that's gonna happen to you.. just saying be careful as obviously I'm not the only one that had an issue with people like that

Maybe he doesn't count the ones buried in his basement?

I did once he was nearing 30 and never had a relationship and he also showered me with gifts etc. even tried to get me really over the top expensive shit. Turned out he was completely wacko. "Luckily" i've had bad experiences before so I recognized the red flags in this.

However the guy i'm currently dating never has either but I think since i've known him for a while it's because he's simply not been searching and not been desperate to meet someone and wouldn't even invest in someone if he couldn't see it lasting long term, sort of like how I am myself whereas the guy I mentioned first was constantly on dating apps trying really hard and being super desperate...

So yeah it CAN be risky because it COULD be a warning sign especially if he's perfect on paper (the first guy I mentioned was almost oddly perfect on paper whereas the guy i'm currently dating is far from perfect but verys sweet and caring). It could also be a warning sign because like you said not many end up with their first love but I believe that is also usually because many people meet their first love so young. I'd say go with your gut and take things slowly if you're doubtful. It's definietely good to be realistic and not just let the love consume you and miss any potential signs that it's not right for you.

My general advice is that if someone is super perfect on paper they're covering something up because NO ONE is perfect and has a perfect life. NO ONE. So try to get under the surface if the surface seems too flawless and see what's underneath it.

How old are ya'll?