Is it ridiculous how my brother treats me?

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So, to start off I'm the oldest of two and my brother and I are four years apart in age. Now I'm 18, just starting college and fresh out of high school and finally onto a life of being too busy to have drama. My brother on the other hand is 14, attending a high school much nicer than my own had been and he is constantly praised and bragged about by my mother for his roles in theater. I worked in theater doing the hard backstage work and took advanced acting classes under a coach that had worked in Hollywood and she never brags about it. Just general things like "Oh yeah my daughter worked backstage on a couple of shows." (*cough**cough*just 6 major adult shows that sold out*cough*) and, not that it's you know MAJOR or anything, but the executives of the theatre only ask my mom about me every time she goes to one of my brother's kid shows.
So what's my point? Well my brother is spoiled, I'm not one of those older siblings that's got a complex or anything (really I'm not) but it's like he always gets the best of what we have first. And he acts like it too. He acts like I'm beneath him. Whenever we are with my parents and they ask me something he immediately jumps in and talks over me. Whenever I try to state a fun little fact I learned recently (most recently was yesterday after watching Shark Week I tried to tell my mom that Great Whites give birth to "pups") he shoots it down with something else so I have to shut my mouth and just let him lie to her. When I started to get involved in theater suddenly he wanted to be in theatre and be better than me at it. It's not like I've bullied him his whole life, in fact I'm the one that had to take some beat downs for him as kids, I didn't call him names as a kid unless he pushed me too far and hardly do I call him anything besides his own name. He's always asking for it though since it's literally in his nature to argue even when he's wrong. Seriously, tell the kid the sky is blue because of the water in the atmosphere and he'll either give a snobbish "Well duh." or he'll say "No, it's not because then the sky would always be blue."
I've found that I think he hates me because his friends like me. It doesn't sound like it makes sense but that seems to be the reason, because when they point out something nice about me or tell me thank you for driving them home from a practice or a party he gets angry. A mutual friend of mine says that he's always telling his play friends about how terrible I am and how I'm a "b*tch" to him. When in reality all I'd ever do was try to talking to him nicely when I'd have to take him home and he would ignore me.
I honestly believe he hates me because over the years his friends have liked me, I don't take his guilt trips and I don't respond positively to his manipulative nature.
All I want to know is if this is normal or if there's anything I can do about it? I've come to the internet as a last resort with this issue.

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  • kupokupo
    9 years ago

    First off, I'm sorry but the sky is not blue because of water in the atmosphere or water at all really. It's to do with the scattering of light. I know right - a lot of people don't seem to know that.

    Ok now to get down to business... This kid seems like a brat. Try not to worry about him, and furthermore try not to worry about your mum too. It might sound weird saying that cause it's your mum right, but you should focus on yourself. Try to weigh your achievements in your own head rather than have other people praise you, as generally you'll find that people don't often jump to give you a big pat on the back and tell you how awesome you are. Take some time out to actually say to yourself "yeah I did pretty good there" and pat yourself on the back, that way it stops you beating yourself up about it in future.

    About him telling his friends that you're a bitch and whatever, that's just jealousy. He wants to be an attention whore by the sounds of it, and when you're the focus for a bit it sounds like he gets pretty unhappy and jealous.

    By the way if you've got any more of these little facts I'd love to hear them. I'm totally into that kinda stuff!

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  • Alberthall
    9 years ago

    This is nothing new. Mum's adore sons and take daughters for granted. Get over it. Plough your own furrow, don't compare yourself to your brother or keep trying to get brownie points off your mum, it doesn't mean anything. The best thing you can do is get out there and make a success of your life for yourself [and possibly your future family]. Don't waste your energy trying to impress your mother or score points off your brother. At the end of the day they count for nothing.

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  • CoffeeKev
    9 years ago

    He is a guy, and we do not have the emotions of a woman. Hit him with the facts. You are tired of his shit, he will shut up talking bad stuff about you, or you will rip his pathetic little dreams out of his wretched writhing little soul. And that you have been feasting on your mothers tears for his sad future since long before he started puberty and thought those little raisins he calls balls meant something. Put him in his place. He is just trying to push your buttons. Let him know know you don't care whether he lives or dies, after a while he will give up.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    To me, it sounds like he is suffering from a inferiority complex. He feels inferior to your successes and desperately wants to out do you in everything. Your mom probably spoils him because he is the youngest, the baby. Or, maybe she knows of his insecurity and feels that doing these things for him will boost his self-esteem.

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