Is it reasonable for me to be homophobic?

Despite what you think, not every guy is in love with you or finds you attractive and it's unreasonable for you to think so based on this one experience. Learn to be a bit more tolerant since it most likely offends those homosexuals you act this way toward. Most homosexuals will not try to start anything with you so just ease up on the anxiety. If a guy does come onto you, your head isn't going to explode and the world isn't going to end. Just back away and calmly and politely explain your situation and if that still doesn't work just don't associate with that person anymore. In general you shouldn't associate with people who can't respect your personal space and/or your feelings. I honestly hope this helps since I'm not trying to offend you with this, i'm merely trying to explain to you how your actions can be viewed as offensive by others.

Deep inside you want it, and you want it deep inside.

I can tell.

It's understandable, but a fear I don't think I have...

I met a gay guy at a bar.. He kept on calling me beautiful and grabbed my butt once..

Kind've disturbing that he may have been turned on, but it didn't turn me on, nor did it disturb me AT THE MOMENT.

I actually found it a little flattering, hey I got me some atention :P..

i can't help my attraction to girls, in the same way this fella couldn't help but find this piece of man meat to be attractive :P

It is bad for me to make the assumption, but sometimes I cannot help but think that those who are OVER THE TOP homophobe are struggling with their own sexuality..

If you know you're straight.. why go over the top in order to proove it?

Men are pigs, even the gay ones. How many girls have had this same experience with a guy?

Very few phobias are reasonable. Yeah sure, your mind has rationalized it, but it doesn't make it okay.

If you were bit by a dog it is reasonable that you would acquire a fear of dogs. But to believe that every dog is going to bite you is irrational.

it's not wrong to be homophobic. based on your experience it's easy to understand why you fear homosexuals, but unless you confront this fear it could easily turn into paranoia. try talking to some close friends about this, emotional support is always nice to have.

Be comfortable with your sexuality and let gays know your strait don't hate them its hard enough being different don't add to the hate

lololol fereal dude that dudes a creeper or a sexual deviant. usually when a gay guy finds out another guy i straight theyll back off i promise.. ive hit on girls that were straight and its hella embarrassing. i wouldnt blame them if they thought you were hot i mean its whatever. im sure theres a girl out there that thought you were hot and didnt like her but you didnt care about that. idk. not really reasonable but a lot more undertandable than homophobes that just hate for no reason.. like the government.

You must be a cute guy, but I feel for you.. I'm a girl but I could just imagine. That gay guy did a diservice to other gays because he traumatized you so that you discriminate against other gays. You said no and he should have respected that.. I guess the alcohol got the best of him.

NO NO NO!
It's just your friend was an asshole. Nothing to do with homosexuality.

Don't flatter yourself...most homophobes think that gay people will hit on them...seriously, most homophobes can't even get a girl to look at them...welcome any attention that you can get.

You had me at ""keep your distance man, I'm not gay and I don't want you coming on to me, don't even look at me!"."

Made me lol so hard I had to agree with you.

I agree with the comment above mine, also, I wouldn't say I'm homophobic, but I do often keep my distance from people I know are gay, just in case. I have a couple Bi friends, and a lesbian friend and i find it somewhat strange but so long as no one makes a pass at me i'm ok

theres a logic in it but still, its an obvious overreaction. Allright look if you want to understand, its simple. We guys are pervs. We could bang prety much anything with a pulse. You see how guys look at girls. Well Homos look at guys the same way and think the same way. So allright its no big deal, you know it but you can't get over it you are very unconfy with gays. So what do you do when your overly scared of something? See as much gay action on the net and read gay people's stories on here and you'll realise its no biggy. I'm not gay I wouldn't make a big deal if a guy would kiss me, I would just be unnatracted. Bout the same as if a doberman licked my face.

Fags are creepy when they talk to you.

You are an idiot. Chances are you are slightly "curious" and that is what weirds you out. Homophobic people are usually latently gay.

Well im gay, but im sooo homophobic. I look at people who act out the stereotype and think they should be culled.

Obv i like the same sex but if someone is straight i always think, fair enough, ill be their friend but nothing more.

i hate people who say that they can 'turn' some one gay because no you cant. Its not something you 'try'. Your just attracted to the same sex and know it.In much the same way a guy knows he likes women without needing to have sex with one to confirm it. - given the chance if there was a pill that would make me straight i would take it.

Well ok I think you are traumatized by an incident but I don't think every dude in the world is in love with you.

hormophobia is never right or justified, you have been scarred by that bad experience but you should try to get over it. (I'm gay btw)
90% of men are not interested in you as 90% are not gay or bi for starters, most gay men don't bother try and flirt with a man they know is straight, so your friend sounds like a jerck.
you just have to get over it, and don't worry you were both high and those things happen, and it wasn't like you wanted to kiss him, he kissed you so don't worry .
between you and me I've woken up with a girl after getting high at a party, not a clue how that happened. boy did that messed with my head (just when you think you know your self)

Gay guy flirt with me= I'm gonna beat his face in. Not cuz he's gay, no hatred. Just its very obvious I'm straight. My chicks cuz is gay, he's cool. No prob there. But if he so much as thought about hitting on me, ima fuck him up. He knows it. She knows it. All there is to it. But no don't be homophobic... I'm pretty sure they ALL don't wanna butt fuck you. Lol

I get that a few guys thought you were hot, but me being a Gay guy can safely say that were not out to snatch up guys and force them to to do stuff with us. I think that there might be a level of interest, whats the worste that can happen from getting a bj from a close gay friend

Ha your reaction is a bit extreme don't you think?

Some guy comes on to you, which just means he thinks you're attractive, and you freak out and assume 90% of the male population want to fuck you?

Take it as a compliment, and just indicate to people that you're only interested in women.

so what you dont like or want gay guys hitting on you and then you gain a fear of it over time its no differant from being affraid of spider(spiders that try to kiss you lol) its not like your saying fuck you damn homos to gay couples or anything.

If an 18 year old girl was kissed against her wishes, it would have a profound effect on her. You being male makes little difference. "Over-reacting" after being sexually assaulted is commonplace.

Someone above said animals are not gay - that isn't true.

I wouldn't really say you were homophobic but being straight and getting hit on by a gay guy is rather unpleasant when they won't back off, so when someone seems like they're going to make a move on me I feel a bit uncomfortable. Don't worry too much though, I bet you don't make a move on every attractive girl you see so why would a gay guy act the same.

lucky

It's a "phobia" for a reason...it's something you will need to come over eventually just as much as the guy who's afraid of leaving his house will.

Being gay is a serious disease. It is most often caused by childhood trauma or some very depressing event happening while you were growing up. Your not born Gay. Animals don't experience trauma or have these complex feelings, therefore that's why you don't see gay animals. If your homophobic it's all right as long as you don't turn towards violence. If you know any gay ppl try to bring them to a therapist. Gays are the #1 spreader of HIV/AIDS and also 100 times more susceptible to it then straight white men.

Every hole is a goal fella, go live a little.....

Hey Dude:

To me, it sounds you might have some Bi-Sexual tendencies about you.

i dont have a problem with gays as long as they stay the hell away from me. i think its pretty fuckin sick what they do but whatever just don't do it around me.

You're weird. Sometimes I get uncomfortable, but then I'm like whatever. I'm like that with any form of PDA. Do it in private please. But to be homophobic, what's wrong with you?

nothing wrong with it - some guys are better than girls at kissing and ............

Well, lame on your friend's part - but you were high and drunk, so take that into account. Firm but polite always works, you know. Just because someone expresses interest, male or female, you don't have to give them the anti-christ, Damian-like death stare. Smile, and say no. People get it. If they don't, just walk away.

I am not gay, and i was not abused by one, so i cannot say for sure if that is normal. Since they do not abuse me i think it's ok. I know some gay guys, but they're cool and not vulgar. But if a gay tries to abuse, then i think you have a good reason to dislike them. But love is always pretty and i think is cute to see somebody loving somebody, it doesn't matter the sex (however i won't kiss or do something with sexual context with them). In that specific story, i think it's normal.

I understand that you had a bad experience, but not every gay person is like that. I'm bi, and I don't look at every man or woman who come near me. There are creeps in every sex, but you have to ignore them. Who knows, maybe you might become best friends with someone who's gay? I mean, a lot of straight men are best friends with girls, and they don't try to sleep with them. But if there is a man who likes you, your shouldn't be creeped out, because isn't it always a good thing if someone likes you? How would you feel if you liked a girl, and it turns out she's a lesbian, but she gets creeped out because you're a man. How does that feel? Being juged just because of your sex? You don't have to be gay to be nice to someone who is gay. Most of them will know you are straight anyway.

dude just becuz u got kissed by a gay guy doesnt mean u should be scared of all gay guys, if u see them and they see you it doesnt mean they like you, ur gay friend was high and drunk so theyre should be no worries

based on the way you relate it you were most likely feeling confused and partially turned on by any sexual contact in high school.

however you still have an innocence about you where you feel that your sex life depends on whether others make a pass at you.

move on. get in control and stop thinking about men in a sexual way. even gays. good luck