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is it really that odd that ive never dated and im 22, never really met a girl i really wanted to take the step out of being shy and ask out. oh and im a 22 year old guy in college.
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I never really dated. I always did activities with a group of friends. I think my first actual date with my husband was on our one month anniversary. (Or Lunaversary, as we called it.) I don't think we're very normal but dating isn't required to find a good relationship.
I can't say I agree on that. If you want to get to know someone, you need to have some one on one time. That's what dates are for.
I understand what you are saying, but you assume our group time never turned into alone time? We didn't plan dates because we didn't have to. We were friends first. And that foundation is rock solid. We found a way to get to know each other on that deeper level without planning alone time. It helped that we worked together and after work socials were strongly encouraged. But that dosn't mean we were never alone together. It means I found a friend, and he became my life partner.
Ah, alright.
But still, if the OP hasn't got any romantic prospect in his immediate social circle, I think he should ask someone out on a date. It's always exciting to get to know someone.
Why does he need a romantic prospect? And I do agree, getting to know people can be exciting, but it doesn't have to be romantic.
I do think most people use dating as a tool for finding a partner but we also need friends in life. And friends often lead us to other friends who might be fun to date.
I'm 23 and I have never dated. I have never had the interest to. It's just too stressful.
So I think it's not odd.
I never dated anyone either...
I don't find it odd, but compared to rest of the population, it's uncommon.
Are there really no girls at all you'd like to ask out? I find that hard to believe. Stop making a big deal out of such a minor thing! You've got nothing to lose. Unlike high school, in college nobody is going to make a fuss if you ask someone out.
I'm no dating coach or anything (thank God I'm not, those guys are douchebags), but I think this is a good approach if you're shy:
1. Find yourself a girl you've got some basic connection with.
2. Ask her to hang out after class. (or whatever it is you're doing)
3. Hang out with her. Make sure not to say anything stupid (I mess up this part sometimes) :D
4. If you liked it, ask her to meet up again sometime. Congratulations, you've got a date.
Of course, you could also be rejected. In that case, man up and realize that everybody has to deal with that one time or another. Don't make a big deal out of it.
He should do what you said to do. People tend to actually want to ask the girl on a date within the first 10 mins. He definitely just needs a girl to hang around him and make her laugh. Just one thing, he has to make sure to stay out of the friend zone by giving her compliments and not over doing it either. She smells nice and her hair is lovely usually lets the girl know that you've given her a look of more than just a friend.
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