Is it really normal that im deeply inlove with a gay guy?

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Hi! I just want to share something and at the same time to ask some advices from you. I really need your help and advices to this problem of mine. So here's my problem:

*I'm inlove with my bestfriend and he's a gay. Yeah, a totally gay. We've been friends for almost 3 years already. He used to flirt boys and wearing light make ups. He likes to collect 'butterfly' stuffs which I found him really cute. He's sweet and quite handsome.
I don't know when did my feelings start. I just found myself getting jealous everytime he flirts boys, when some of our girlfriends hug him and everytime he talks and shares about his guy crushes.

I also ended up day-dreaming about him being my boyfriend that made me blushing from the thought. I'm just an ordinary teenager who likes to day-dream about their crushes.

Now that we're already in college, we barely see nor talk to each other. I thought it could help me to forget this effin feelings of mine but I was wrong. I am still inlove with him.

My friends in college knew about this. They thought that I'm such a weird person because I always dumped all my suitors just for that gay. They even set some 'dinner dates' for me but it turns out to be failed.


People think that I'm such a weird person. I tried to move on but it turns out to be failed. I just can't fool myself!

Is this really normal?? If not, what should I do? How can I let go of my feelings for him? I don't know what to do anymore..*

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  • dytrog
    8 years ago

    You can't make him not gay with love. Move on.

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    • ***meshie***
      8 years ago

      Well I guess you're right..thanks

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Many girls will build a fantasy infatuation with gay guys because it is safe. No chance that they will be asked for sex or be put in a position where they will actually have to accept or decline an offer of a more intimate relationship.

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  • Koda
    8 years ago

    Unfortunately, we can't help who we fall in love with. It's not "weird" as your friends say for you to fall in love with a gay guy. Gay guys are still guys and the fact that he'll never be attracted to you doesn't mean you should be able to just turn off your attraction for him. I'm sure your friends have all fallen for someone who didn't like them back. It's the same situation, gay or not. The good news is that unreciprocated romantic feelings don't usually last forever. I've never heard of a deep crush lasting longer than, say, five years, but maybe telling him about it would expedite the process. You always run the risk of freaking him out, but most likely he'll be understanding, and when it's out in the open it may just start to seem silly, and you'll be able to move on to others guys.

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    • ***meshie***
      8 years ago

      Hi!..Actually, I already confessed to him and I did that last week because I knew that it's the last and right thing to do. At first, he insisted that it was just a prank and kept on laughing...yes, it was painful but when I cried in front of him because of the dumbness that I felt at that time, he was shocked and at the same time confused about my confession. He told me that he 'likes' me not in a romantic way but as a bestbuddie for him. He told me that he's lucky for having me as his bestfriend. For me, that's the cue, I guess? A cue for accepting, forgetting and moving on. :((

      Well..thank's by the way.

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  • Quintarius
    8 years ago

    Start dating girls. You are a lesbian

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