Is it possible to get "the fire" back

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years and the past 2 we both just totally lost that fire. Unfortunately in the same year we both lost someone very dear to us and that's when it started. Goodness up until we both had someone important to us pass that year our relationship I mean it was hot! Up until a few months ago I couldn't think like this, I was still grieving and didn't care. Lately I've been trying to get things back and my boyfriend wants nothing to do with it 😯 we still have a very loving and close relationship but I think after 2 years I'm starting to get a bit revved up again and I don't know if he ever will. Is it possible, or is all just lost?

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  • HARRYCOX
    6 years ago

    NO.

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  • Hoshiko
    6 years ago

    I think you just need to talk to him, and communicate your feelings gently yet honestly (start your statements with "I feel" instead of, say, "You made me feel"). Remind him that you still love him dearly and that he is still so important to you. Then-- and I know this may sound scary-- ask him if he still wants to salvage this relationship, if it isn't too painful to do so.

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  • Ratmanspeeks
    6 years ago

    So cheat on him and see if you feel guilty afterwards. If it turns out you don't give a fuck, then it's time to move on. Sounds as if he's already cheated on you.

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago

    It's not easy, b/c stuff from the past will come up again, good and bad. Spark-killers. I''m dating a woman for the second time around, and, we still have the spark and chemistry, but, when things don't go well, "the past" comes up, making it worse. There are still things that drive me crazy about her, but, we do still have that juice between us. Maybe try doing different things with your man, something never did before..Experience new things together.

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  • suckonthis9
    6 years ago

    Interesting that you mentioned how important it was that someone else, who was close to you, was to your relationship.

    This has become very common, because some corrupt and dead-beat police-criminals had purposefully targeted and attacked particular important and influential individuals in mainstream society, through a very long, long list of crimes; and there is still no justice for what they did, and for what they did not do, and what they still have not done.

    You can't conjure the dead back to life, and there are limitations to healing the sick.
    Beyond certain limits (both physical and mental), it is better for everyone else, that the sick are dead. But they can't seem to figure this out for some reason, or lack thereof, because they are all sick in their mind.

    Life is no fun, if everyone around you is sick, dead, or dying.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Make him a sandwich

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I do everything for him and NOT because he's lazy, but because i want to. I even bought new lingerie the other day and that was humiliating to get rejected. Ive never been rejected in my life and dont know how to handle this.

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      • rayb12
        6 years ago

        :( :( :'(

        me neither, in a relationship I mean. Idk what his problem is.

        Maybe he is still grieving?

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