Is it possible to find a partner who can be patient about sex

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I dont know what I can do. Its not like I never want to have sex but I have no need for sex and find it scary. The last guy I liked had big physical needs but on all other levels we were the most perfect match, its very depressing. He had no patience though and got annoyed even though he said he loved me and said that for his "pride as a man" he cant just accept no sex... Whatever that means...
I would add to my bio that I am asexual or close to it (chemistry is still the main thing to me so I guess i'm not 100% asexual) when dating but I don't want to talk about sexuality in my bio. I also cant define myself as something I dont know I am. Really i'd need to experiment with my next partner in a slow and comfortable pace which is not something I want to talk about to anyone I am not dating. My problem is I definietely get turned on, and I could never date someone who didn't turn me on in any way, so possibly I have some issues around sex and I need a partner who'd be understanding of that not get mad at me and I think at this point that only that could help me get over it.

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  • Curiouskitten444
    2 years ago

    Im seeing someone and weve so far waited 3 months and are going to wait another few weeks. Those with discipline and patience are out there, youll find them.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    You need to be upfront about it because most guys are gonna feel its a waste of time and think they'll be miserable if it gets too serious. Like trapped in a way.

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  • Bulgae
    2 years ago

    You just have to keep looking, eventually you'll find the right person for you :)

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  • techpc
    2 years ago

    His pride as a man... A bit cringe-sounding, but if that's his dealbreaker, then the relationship wasn't meant to be.

    You sound normal, a person who doesn't want to immediately bang anyone they date after two weeks. Where are you finding these dates, Tinder? That app is practically for hookups.

    Go download dating apps that are for serious relationships, and you will have a higher chance of finding others like you.

    There's nothing wrong with you, and I'm pretty sure that getting turned on means you aren't asexual(correct me if I'm wrong). Maybe your sex drive is just lower than the guys you're looking at.

    You sound like a nice, normal, actual person. They're rare on the internet these days.

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