Is it possible to be loved by someone who hates themself?
My boyfriend is mute from an event that mutilated his throat when he was 17, we met when we were 20 at a speech and American sign language center, my father is deaf and I volunteer with deaf children.
He hears fine, but can't speak, so he communicates through ASL, he's incredibly embarrassed and self loathing because of this. He has self image issues because of the scarring on his neck, and is too embarrassed to talk through ASL when he's out in public.
He's told me many times that he hates himself but loves me, I always think of the saying about how you can't love someone until you learn to love yourself, maybe that's my own insecurities making me worry though. When we talk about marriage he tells me how pathetic it would be to ask me to marry him "with a couple stupid hand gestures", so I remind him that that's how my dad has always told me he loves me.
Dealing with his insecurities is tough, but I'm always willing to put effort in even if I don't get much in return.
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