Is it possible to be in love (really) with 2 people at once?
is it possible to be in love (really) with 2 people at once?
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ellnell
No it's not. You're most likely more in love with the second person you fell in love with as if you're really in love you don't fall in love with someone else and first person is likely just a crush or someone you find attractive.
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hauntedbysandwiches
I disagree. I am still incredibly in love with the first person I ever loved. I know I will always love them and I've accepted that but I do love my best male friend. So it is more than possible. It's strange to say love has a limit of one person at a time, that's not possible. There are also different types of love and while I assume you meant romantic, if you meant in general, then it's absolutely normal to love many people. Friends, family, partners, etc.
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ellnell
That's not romantic love though and that's what this post refers to. Obviously you can love several people at once that goes unsaid, you love your family and you love your friends etc but it's not romantic. You can love an ex as in still caring about them without it being romantic, I know I do with one of my exes because we were also friends for a long time but it's not romantic.
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bigbudchonga
If you believe in love then yes. Love is an abstract concept, and thus hard to define, but I think by the metric of most people, there are those who are in love, romantically, with more than one person.
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SkullsNRoses
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my_life_my_way
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geek_god_101
There's a difference between love and lust. You can lust for more than one person but more than one person depends on what type of love? What you are referring to romantic love then possible but not recommended at the same time.
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mochi
yeah i think, you can’t really control who you fall in or out of love with, you just do it. yknow?
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Cuntsiclestick
It's possible. That's why poly relationships exist. Though they never really work out, so I can't recommend them..
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CDmale4fem
If you can separate the "love" "lust" and "infatuation", unless you feel it is honest to God real love, yes i think it is. Myself, been there, done that. Needless to say they were not to happy about it.
But also i think that can also be a thing with teens and youner adults. They feel like the world is their oyster and they want any and everything they can without really thinking it thru. But from a pure "LOVE" point of view - very possible.Comment Hidden ( show ) -
olderdude-xx
Totally possible. Somewhere between 5-7% of the USA population is polyamourus to the extent that they can not only fall in real long term caring love with more than one person; but also can naturally juggle being a loving partner for both (these people often naturally think and talk in plurals).
You might wish to research the topic a bit more at The Kinsey Institute for research into sex, gender, and reproduction. Hope you figure it out.
Now a bit of advice if you are in this group as I am poly to the point that I function best with more than one partner (although I don't have to live with both of them - some do).
I'm 63 and most of my life I have had more than one active GF. I never lied to anyone about having another GF. Always identified it before we became intimate and let the lady chose to proceed or withdraw from the relationship. Often the ladies who stayed met the other (at least once).
You need to be honest with all of your partners and potential partners that you are that way (if you are) - and that it will be a shared relationship. A lot of people will not wish to be in that kind of relationship; but, you will find enough that are OK with it. You need fair rules on how it will work.
In my case I am totally into very long term caring and loving relationships. My longest "other" GF was 14 years (she decided to go into the ministry and staying involved with me didn't fit), Next longest 7 years. I don't do short term flings and certainly don't bed hop. My wife knows and there are rules on how things work.
Now your needs on relationship length and other factors may be different if you are in this group. But, honesty works best if you are in this group.
I wish you the best in this,
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Tommythecaty