Is it possible to be afraid of love?

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Let me first apologize for my grammar and sentence structure as I had speach therapy up until my earlier 20's.

There is this one woman whom I adore dearly and love, but she is afraid of loving me back. I can tell she wants to but there is this facade, this imaginary barricade blocking her from expressing her true feelings. She refuses to let me love her. I think I'm truly in love and it feels good to say it. I'm in love. She is the most beautiful being I've ever laid my eyes on. So gentle and kind. I want her to be mine. Mind,body and soul. For heaven's sake I get jealous when I see her talking to a girlfriend. Any suggestions on how I can convince her there is someone out there who wants to be as one with her forever and always?

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    This is a slippery slope, because there is a chance that your extreme infatuation with her is making you misread signals. As in, she may not like you as much as you think, but your feelings may have twist it to her holding back, when she's probably trying to politely turn you down.

    My advice, confess your feelings and listen closely to what she says. If she's not ready, then move on and leave her be. There's nothing much you can do to convince her otherwise without coming off as creepy or pushy.

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    • Jacob_Zuma_783
      7 years ago

      ^ This.

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  • Jacob_Zuma_783
    7 years ago

    To be honest, it sounds like she doesn't like/love you back dude. Maybe that's all in your head, because you want your infatuation to be reciprocated.

    Also it's probably best not to bring up the "forever and always" bit to her - that's a big turn-off. People get together and break up, that's how it goes. She'll feel like you're obsessed with her and trying to lock her into a situation she can't get out of.

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  • Cookiecutter
    7 years ago

    It takes time and dedication but also her getting help. She needs to see a professional because this problem isn't going to solve it self if she finds someone who loves her it will only cause her to push them away.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      Why would she need to see a professional anything because she doesn't love him when he wants her to?

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      • Cookiecutter
        7 years ago

        Shes afraid to love him back or anyone. Its a problem she needs to work through. Hence getting help. This isn't normal behavior and neither is crippling low self esteem.

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        • Ellenna
          7 years ago

          That's what he says but he sounds a bit delusional to me

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          • Cookiecutter
            7 years ago

            Okay so hes maybe a little delusional but her problem isn't any less real. Yes it is possible to be afraid of love. Its a number of problems that requires help.

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            • Ellenna
              7 years ago

              I reckon his belief she has a problem is part of his delusion and he's the one needing help to stop pestering her for something she doesn't want to give him.

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    • tonyyaa
      7 years ago

      Agreed

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  • idontcaree
    7 years ago

    I think you're gay.

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    Show you love her, the best you can. Listen to her and help her open up. If you have patience and understand her needs, you two can make it work. Let her see she can trust you.
    But don't push her too much.

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  • bubsy
    7 years ago

    It's far more productive if you focus on changing yourself instead. This level of jealousy you feel isn't healthy, and I really recommend you read "No More Mr. Nice Guy". If you do, you'll change your behavior and outlook, and your relationship will improve.

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