Is it nornal to feel so lonely

I have lost most of my friends because of certain acts and regrets i have done. I have done all i could do about it, said sorry, apologized perfusily. But they have ignored me and i know and feel that they will not forgive me. My other friend is in sorta the same boat with a similar friend.
Anyway as a result of all this mess i have lost most of my friends. It is sad and depressing. I find myself really alone. My other friends are guy friends and they usual hang out with themselves. I try to occupy my time by reading, games, writing etc. I even have a internship to go to another country for a year. however i still can't help feeling so much grief and shear loniness it is to lose almost all of your companions. Also i long for a boyfriend too and feel alone that i havent even had a real boyfriend my entire life, I am 20. Is it normal to feel so depressed and alone sometimes as well as just down right bored?

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  • jreed1

    your high lol load another bowl in your vaporizer

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  • Vsusanmoon

    Thanks guys for all the support!! Really it's good to know. As an update i happen to make more friends than i can choose, here and i had boy friend as well. But that chapter of bliss has all worn down and now i am back where i was when i wrote this entry a while back. It is ironic how shitty can a time in your like can be and then go on to be having the time of your life an back to the miserable. However i know there is hope. But i know it is probably better for me to stay away from those friends i mentioned above because of my overseas stay here i have learned that friends should never should have treated me like that in the first place. I was a lonely girl then was the a content and happy girl but back to being the sad gilrl. Ugg what a life. i know there is hope though

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  • knowledgebytes

    The natural human condition is lonliness. Your condition is normal. This problem seems to peak at around 20 years of age for a number of reasons and at that age you can't even get into a bar to fool yourself into thinking you aren't lonely for even a short period of time. Yes, this is why people go to bars...to temporarily feel connected to other people. It's not "real" but at least it offers a respite from the lonliness. It's also why many others run off to the military or delay life by staying in college despite any direction of study. Only a few are actually going to college with a specific goal for which they have a passion.

    There is something you can do though to cure this. Join an organization that helps people. Do the Peace Corp thing. Be a big brother or sister, help kids, get out and connect with people in a way that you never have before. You will be AMAZED at how quickly lonliness subsides when you are handing out food and water bottles to hundreds of kids who are starving and don't speak a bit of English!

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  • You have done you best to mend fences so I think you should be pleased with yourself for being big, admitting you were wrong and wanting their friendship.

    I don't know what you did. But I do wonder if what you did warrants being spurned so by your friends. They are not exactly demonstrating a lot of kindness, care and compassion.

    So as you move on, you may want to reflect on whether whatever error you made really warranted the kind of cold and mean ostracism you have experienced from this group of people. I doubt it.

    Learn from your mistake, for sure, but also learn that the quality of friendship matters and that these people may have been lacking in depth, or may have even been willfully cruel towards you for some slight on your part.

    You will make new friends. Try to make ones that are deserving of your trust and understand that nobody is perfect.

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  • GGirlxoxo

    i felt exactly the same thing as you..cos that happened to me once. All of my friends left me and i was always alone at school, it was the hardest time for me but later i found out that they were never my friends. What i did was moved on and met new friends who i thought was true friends and life just got better since...

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  • La535

    I think that's completely normal! This site is amazing btw...I'm 20 and my last serious bf was when I was 16 but I have not had one since then and have almost no really close friends at school although I had friends before I came to college. Don't be too hard on yourself and try to just enjoy life because when you're not fixating on things, that's when they get fixed. I'm sure you're internship will be amazinggg.

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  • Farmboy1975

    I too had this experience when I was young. I had a very good friend that disowned me when I became a "doper". He had nothing to do with me from then on. To this day, I want to look this guy up and fix this thing. This stuff hurts, but I can tell you, I believe your feelings are normal. Hang in there, learn fromt the experience, and make new friends. The old ones, it true friends, will eventually come back around and forgive you.

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  • awatcher

    You are not alone. If you are getting more angry than normal you could be experiencing a medical issue from undx diabetes to emerging mental health issue. Go to a good dr and note what ppl ahve said about your or how you feel. Being more anxious can be from undx diabetes. This happened to someone I know recenlty.

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  • mikestorm

    yea ur not alone in that ive done the same thing but best of us do

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